No matter how good your relationship is and how much you both desire the other, life will get in the way of your sex life. Long hours at work, sick kids, and the minutia of your day to day life can make an extra hour of sleep seem preferable to wild sex. Sometimes it feels easier to go with the tried and true positions or just skip it altogether.
I've learned plenty of lessons from my divorce. One of them is the importance of a strong, sexual connection. Now I'm almost too aware of how often I have sex and in what position. The moment it starts to feel rote and habitual, that's the time to call a time-out and regroup.
Whether you're trying desperately to make your relationship work, you're just getting back into the dating game, or you want to try something new, check out these five sex games guaranteed to spice things up in the bedroom.
1. Strip Anything
You've heard of strip poker, but any game with winners and losers has a strip version. Strip Scrabble, Strip Monopoly (instead of going to jail, take something off), heck, even Strip Mario Kart might be an option. As long as someone's naked, it's going to be fun and exciting. You'll have to remove a piece of clothing for each round of the game you lose. The first one completely naked is the “loser” but really, if you're naked and your partner is willing, you're definitely winning.
2. Seven Minutes in Actual Heaven
This isn't a party in your parent's basement, and you're no teenager. Find a dark closet and spend at least seven minutes getting a little freaky. Make out, give him a blowjob, or just feel each other up. Whatever you do, have fun with it. And if you go longer than seven minutes, even better. Bonus points if one or both of you come out of the closet naked.
3. Mystery Toy
Don't worry if you don't have a lot (or any) sex toys. Although, I highly recommend owning at least a couple, you can do this with stuff around the house. Blindfold your partner (or be the one blindfolded) – use a scarf or a tie – and use “toys” on them. If you've got a stash of toys, use them – vibrators, dildos, crops, whatever. No toys, no problem. Lick off chocolate syrup or whipped cream from their body. Run a (clean) feather duster over their skin. Anything that can create sensations on their skin will be good. Now, make them guess what you're using. How you reward correct guesses is up to you.
Another good one for either of you, this one involves four ties or scarves and the bed. Tie your very naked partner to the bed using each tie/scarf. Feel free to grab a fifth one as a blindfold. There they are – naked and at your mercy. Hot, right? Now it's time to have your way with them. Touch your partner from head to toe. Kiss. Lick. Nibble. Watch their reactions and do the things that drive them craziest. They're your prisoner, and this is the best kind of torture possible. Feeling extra frisky? Tell them they're not allowed to orgasm until you give them permission – and then torture them with pleasure until they're begging for it.
5. Role Play
With role play, the only limit is your imagination. Teacher and naughty student, cops and robbers, pirates and the captured wench – any pairing you can imagine can be used. Change into costumes or simply talk differently to get yourself into character. Have your way with your partner. Get spanked. Bring out the handcuffs. Sexual role play is dress-up for grown-ups and much more fun to play than the kid version.
Sex is supposed to be fun. It's okay to laugh and be silly even when you're getting down and dirty. You don't even need official games to spice it up. Naked tickle wars can lead to some interesting places, too. But if you need a little help, try any one of these games and get you and your partner out of a sexual rut. No matter how you play, you'll be naked and turned on by the end – it's a win-win for everyone.
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