How Giving Of Yourself Encourages Healing After a Divorce
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By Claire, Guest Author - April 12, 2017

Going through a difficult time in life is always stressful; we can end up losing confidence and feeling depressed or anxious. On the other hand, difficult times in our lives are also a great chance for us to get to know ourselves again. We learn about our weaknesses, we test our own limits and discover strength we didn’t even know we had. It’s important to understand that we all need time to heal, and above all, that we all heal in different ways. Still, all who heal need help and love from friends and family, and once we focus on that, we have a chance to grow.

4 Ways Giving Of And To Yourself Encourages Healing After Divorce

Give love


You might feel like there is no one in this world who will love you the same way your former spouse did, and you might also think that there will never be another person whom you will love the same way you loved your former spouse. You may be right, but love comes in so many shapes and forms! There are so many people around you who love you and whom you love in return. Focus on your family and friends; your parents, siblings, cousins, nephews, and nieces are all wonderful people who will cherish the affection you show them. Love grows when you share it, and the more you love people, the more love you will feel.

Give gifts


A small action of giving gifts will be a great step forward for you – your relationships will become deeper and more intimate. By taking the time to pick the perfect gift for your friends or family members, you show them that you’re a careful listener and that you care about their needs and wants. Interesting quirky gifts from Prinkbox are a great way to show others how much they mean to you, and the best thing about them is that they have perfect gifts for any occasion: housewarming, anniversary, birthday, promotion, or Christmas. Even the smallest gift means a lot when it’s given with a lot of love and thought; toys convey hugs, jewelry expresses good wishes, and clothes show how well you know the other person.

Give time


Time is one of the most valuable things you can give to other people (and to yourself) because it’s always passing and it’s never coming back. It’s important to cherish and remember all the beautiful moments, and you should try to spend your time meeting new people and doing things that make you happy. When you give yourself time, you will discover that you’re not so sad anymore, and one day you will wake up feeling like you’re ready to start dating again.

Give understanding

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This part is about yourself; you need to learn to understand yourself first. There are those who expect to miraculously recover after a divorce if they keep smiling and telling themselves they’re fine. This is optimistic, but it’s also wrong; you need to understand that the recovery will take time and that it’s perfectly fine to feel bad every now and then. Accept that there will be days when you’ll feel worse but there will also be days when you’ll feel like a new person – healing comes in waves and as soon as you understand that, it will be a huge step forward for you.  

Remember, the healing power of giving will only get you so far, it’s important to work on yourself. Finding a new balance in life is always challenging, but still, it’s a very rewarding experience and the results will be great for you. Heal, learn, grow, and become the best version of yourself. Only through the power of love and acceptance will you be able to overcome sadness and pain.

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