Bolinas: A Love Affair, A Quest and a Tug of War

In the first quarter of this year a new-ish married couple, a family of four and me and the dudes migrated to a parcel of land on the Mesa in Bolinas...


Hostile or Friendly? Divorce or Not.  Einstein Has the Question.

In the cove just north of Bodega Bay, surrounded by sand cliffs that held back the winds, the dudes and I frolicked with Mr. Jackpot...


The Slow Creep of Bad Choices

Big life changes are wonderful times to create excuses for the emergence of behaviors that are best left behind.  Divorce and moving...


Dating after Divorce: Going Nowhere with That Man

Throughout 2012 I have been fortunate to share my time with a few really great guys.  All of whom have made an appearance here at HGM...


Choosing Love After Infidelity and Divorce

Happy New Year, kittens.  Add this to the thousands of reasons why you deserve to have a year of adventures, magic and deep love in 2013: You have helped me to heal...


All The Little Things Lead to Big Things

Monday morning I woke up feeling blue. It would have been a perfect day to audition for a melodramatic film. My mad skill was crying on cue...


Slow Down There, Ginger

My first apartment was a loft one-bedroom in a building that had a wrought iron gate with an intercom.  The intercom was so cool...


What Is It Exactly That You Are Feeling?

Some days I wonder what it would be like if we could just grunt to each other as our ancestors did before language was constructed...


Fear Doesn

Earlier in the week, I had a conversation with a woman who was feeling insecure in her relationship.  Her revelation, and the fact that...


Letting Go is a Sport in Divorce

I've got an issue with that "Let Go or Be Dragged" quote.  It's misleading.  It insinuates that one needs to let go once.  Process over...