When Couples Therapy Does More Harm Than Good

If you are married to a verbally or psychologically abusive man, think twice before entering couples therapy to work on your issues with him.


Practicing the Art of Detachment: It Isn

My first mindfulness meditation session only last 10 minutes, and I'm not sure what I accomplished. The goal, though, is distance.


8 Things To Do This Christmas (Without Your Kids)

Are you alone this Christmas? Don't miss this opportunity to start building some traditions that are just for you.


A Girlfriend

Today, I am wondering why divorced women are so often told we need to work on ourselves when it's the situation we are in that's problematic.


The Thirty-Five Thousand Dollar Question

Months have passed, and I find myself back to square one, wondering why the law says I am less valuable than my ex.


Reflections On A Summer That Could Have Been More Restful

After a summer in which more things went wrong than right, Dame Yankee returns to her blog to survey the damage.


A Brief Look at Geographical Restriction

People who support geographical restrictions need to ask themselves why they are okay with the economic disparity that goes along with them.


Sociopaths are the New Narcissists: A Look at Two Disorders

Season 2 of "Orange is the New Black" gives us a classic sociopath in the chilling portrayal of Vee. But real-life sociopaths are not so easy to spot.


Does Divorce Feel Like a Prison Sentence to Anyone But Me?

I feel ashamed of my inability to buckle down and enjoy the life I have. But I miss my home back East, and I am counting the days until I can return.


Some Thoughts After Teaching My Daughter

I've retreated to a "kingdom of isolation" ever since the end of my marriage. I know how it happened, but I'm not sure how to get back to the world.


Is the "Best Interest of the Child" Doctrine Unfair to Fathers?

Father's Rights groups claim that the "best interest" doctrine favors women and is bad for kids. What does it say about society that we believe them?


The Things I Hate about Custody Transitions

Custody transitions are tough. I know my daughter is overwhelmed from the nonstop activity at her dad's, but it's hard not to feel inadequate.


Some Thoughts On Not Having My Daughter This Mother’s Day

In my introductory blog post, I struggle with conflicted feelings about what it means to be alone this Mother's Day.


How to Stay Sane When Divorcing a Narcissist

Narcissists react negatively when you challenge their self-perception.  Keep your sanity by remembering they are mostly indifferent, and disengage.