When you’re in the turmoil of a separation, it’s hard to image that you will ever escape the stress, anxiety and uncertainty you feel. I have always been a big believer that things don’t happen randomly to us.
We are thrown curve balls like marital problems and separation in life because there is something we need to learn.
When we get too cocky, the universe or life throws something our way to knock us off our pedestals. We all experience the ebbs and flows of life. The last couple of years has been a very testing time for many.
People are finding themselves asking some very big questions about what they want from life. Many have made the decision to leave their current existences behind to pursue other fulfilling paths. When we learn to make the best out of a bad situation, I do believe the rewards will follow.
Here are the blessings that I have uncovered since my separation:
1. I have a new-found respect for myself. I knew I was resilient and strong but my willingness to make some serious changes in my life is something I feel proud of. I wouldn’t have had the incentive to do so if I was still in my relationship.
2. l feel comfortable making decisions and choices that support my path in life rather than those that detract from it. The people around me have been my greatest teachers. They have taught me so many things about respecting and maintaining personal boundaries..
3. I see life through a different lens and feel nothing but gratitude for where I am today. I couldn’t say that before my separation. I felt like a victim of my circumstances, burdened with expectation and responsibility.
4. I’ve given myself permission to invest in my own well-being. I have learned to listen to my body, surrender when I need to and to be OK with doing nothing. I don’t need to keep busy all of the time.
5. I have an incredible kit bag of tools to draw upon when I need them. Before, I felt trapped in my own small certainty. Now, my knowledge and awareness are so much more expanded.
6. Life is much more harmonious and peaceful and I can see that’s how it’s supposed to be.
7. Feelings of fear, anxiety, worry and stress are slowly dissipating and I have a greater sense of trust that I’m exactly where I need to be.
8. I’m triggered less. I don’t feel the need to fight or defend myself as much as I did before. My choices might upset some but as long as my choices support me, that’s their problem, not mine.
9. I see now more than ever that I am in control of my life and of my path. I am able to live on my own terms and not by someone else’s rules.
10. I have come to understand my own worth again. Next time around, when I’m ready for love, I know I will be more of a whole person and won’t settle for something that doesn’t feel right to me.
My separation was the greatest wake-up call I’ve ever had. If I hadn’t experienced what I did, I would have been playing a role in life that would have left me feeling empty and even more of a victim. I see so many things that I couldn’t see before about myself, my family, and all the relationships that I had been in the past, but now I have the opportunity to do something about it.
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