A hard habit to break after a divorce is playing the role of the good wife. Maybe, even though your ex-husband cheated, you never stooped to his level. Whether you’re a new divorcée, or it’s months, perhaps years down the road, it’s okay to unleash your naughty, sexy side. Do you know why it’s okay?
It’s okay because you’re human and you deserve some fun. Life is too short to sit around, stuck in a rut with your only source of pleasure tucked into the drawer of your bedside table. Maybe your self-confidence took a beating because the ex screwed around and is shacked up with a twenty-something. Remember that his behavior has nothing to do with you. Even if he told you that you’re ugly, fat or no other man would ever want you, don’t believe it!
He’s full of shit and he’s a dickhead!
So take those granny panties and hide them. Even if you can only afford one pair, buy some sexy undies or even better, a thong. If you can’t afford to buy any, go commando. Men love the surprise of finding the woman they’re about to bed, so easily accessible under her sexy dress or tight jeans.
Send the kids off to grandma’s for a night, or wait until their visiting the other parent, and get dressed up in whatever outfit makes you feel sexy. Grab your best friend and tell her you’re having a “sluts night out.”
Before you go into the restaurant, bar or whatever place of fun you’ve chosen, clear your mind. Set all those sexual hang-ups, nerves, and insecurities aside, then have a night of naughty fun. Try to pretend you’re somebody else for a few hours.
Smile, flirt and laugh.
You don’t have to be the good, faithful wife anymore. It’s time to unleash infinite levels of hotness. Whether it’s talking dirty, showing some cleavage or getting out on the dance floor to shake your booty, have some fun! You don’t need to have a one night stand with some random guy to unleash all that pent up frustration. Just by letting go will be liberating for you.
Think of how pissed your ex would be if he knew what you’re doing!
Fuck him. Mentally, not physically.
It’s time to make every man within sight, want you. Look ready, willing, able and unavailable to really get their attention.
If you’re not ready to sleep around, or go out in public, or being a flirty tease, there are other ways to unleash that hidden slut within you and nobody even has to know. Although I got my start in writing with short comedy stories, I spent many years writing erotica, too.
It started out innocently enough, writing my first husband a dirty story. He loved it. During my second marriage, I wrote stories for my second husband as well, then a friend online encouraged me to take my writing to a different level, by telling me about a website where I could post my dirty stories for free.
It felt so liberating and naughty to write the stories and post them for people all over the world to read. Readers voted and sent me fan mail, about the stories and I ended up winning three cash prizes without anyone knowing who I was. By that time my writing had improved somewhat. It was intriguing and a confidence builder. I even sent the stories to a friend in prison and he shared them with his buddies.
Funny thing about my erotica is that a lot of the stories are also romantic, not just erotic, so it gave me a giggle to think of those others reading the type of erotica that housewives secretly read. I also wrote a lot of manuscripts just for myself that no one has ever read. It’s a great stress reliever, basically free therapy. Even if the subject I’m writing about isn’t erotic, it’s still very relaxing.
These days, I rarely write anything erotic, having moved on to writing fun, romantic, mysteries. It has become addicting to write murder mysteries because I don’t limit my imagination. The first murder victim in book one was based on my second hubby. Talk about writing for my own shits and giggles!
No matter, if you go out in public to unleash your sexy inner slut to just flirt, have a one night stand or stay at home writing down your naughtiest thoughts, don’t let your inhibitions hold you back. Let that slut out to play, even if it’s only in your imagination, or get your kink on with some guy. Either way, nobody has to ever know about it.
You will be surprised how much it helps to build self-confidence and to just let go and breathe…
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