Have you ever been cheated on by the one person you thought could or would be there forever? Or how does it feel to be lied to day in and day out? Or abused ? Each one of these damaging acts ruin and burn the soul right out of your heart. Let’s journey down a different road. Let’s think with an open mind some possible real reasons why successful marriages crumble.
Some of us have had a person cheat on us and we were devastated. Cried, fought, maimed, and killed. Some have never experienced the pain and hurt that a cheater stamps you with while a few have been cheated on as well as been cheaters. Yes. A cheater can be forgiven. Hold up! Let’s not attack the messenger just yet. We all know at least one person that was cheated on and also know a person that forgave the cheater. This further entails that cheater can be forgiven. There are reasons why people stay with cheaters. Cheaters are liars and can be abusers.
Abusers on the other hand, can make a person forget to wake up in the morning. They can pull everything out of your soul and step on it, then run over it just to make sure they have the control. Yet, there are people who stay with abusers. Even though physical abuse can be heart wrenching and cause the mental and spiritual mind to fail, mental and spiritual abuse, itself, can bring someone’s life to a halt.
So why does someone end their marriage that supposed to be never-ending?
Let’s look at the “lack of…” column and determine if the following four are the real problems behind why many marriages do not survive.
1. The lack of Adoration.
You can love many people. You can be in love with more than one person; but you can only adore one person. When you are adored, it resonates an unwarranted nervousness that feels like a magnet pulling like the gravitational pull of the universe. The words “I love you” flies out of people’s mouths so much that I would not be surprised that the “I love you” intended for me bumped into an “I love you” intended for someone else and now my “I love you” has come from a total stranger. You intend to love and be loved but you never expect being adored; and when you are in a marriage that never had adoration causes a unknown, unaware gap that is only waiting for infection.
2. The lack of Presence
Who does not love presents? Stand up and tell why not! It is a tangible surprise that was purchased just for you. You accept and sometimes glorify the thought that went into the present. We also have receive presence. The feeling that no matter where you are your presence is felt. As you focus on paying bills and working fifteen hour days and sixty hour weeks. You are tired but not out of it. The person that you love feels in their heart your presence. So what happens to a marriage when there is lack of presence? The heart feels emptiness without presence. and Yet, there are people who’s lives are so consumed by other people’s lives or television that a conversation with them would be like watching paint dry and then discussing it. A person can be pre