Successful dating after divorce means being open to anything that comes your way. You need to think outside the box?
Dating after divorce is far and different from dating the first time around. Dating after divorce can be quite intimidating or even unsettling because trying to go out and find romance again is not for the faint of heart. Depending on how long you were married, the dating scene now can be very different from what you had in the past when dating apps such as Bumble or Tinder and simply ‘hanging out’ watching Netflix wasn’t a thing.
If you’re wondering how dating has changed and how you can navigate the waters easier these days, below are 4 tips on dating after divorce:
1. Just Put Yourself Out There
The first rule of getting a date is letting yourself find the opportunity to do so. No one is coming to your doorstep without knowing you are available to go out, right? You can let others know you are ready to date by joining a singles group, enjoying hobbies that get out of the house, using dating apps, or simply going to church. A new guy is not going to be dropped at your front door. If you want to meet someone, bottom line is, you’re going to have to put yourself in the position of meeting someone.
2. You Have to be OVER Your Ex
If you’re still pinning away over your ex, you’re not going to be a fun and engaging date for anyone. Do yourself a favor and anyone who might date you, don’t even think about dating after your divorce until you are truly emotionally free to invest in someone else.
3. Being Okay With Yourself
It’s impossible for someone else to love you and see how special you are if you aren’t feeling good about yourself. Divorce is tough and healing is a long process but the last thing you want to do is enter the dating scene with a lot of pent-up frustration and anger about yourself and the opposite sex. By assessing your current emotional state and learning from your past mistakes, you open up yourself to a better life later on.
Remember that it is a good idea to reconnect with the old you and figure out who you are now and what you want from a relationship after divorce. Dating after divorce is confusing as it is, you will have an easier time if you’ve already acknowledged that all the wounds and challenges of the past are part of what makes you even more special now.
4. Keep an Open Mind
Okay, everyone has a type but perhaps your past relationships were not as fulfilling because you keep going for the same type. Be open to going out with someone whose is different from what you’re usually attracted to. There is another upside to doing this too because going on dates with people who may be different from who normally choose can help you increase your confidence and teach you things about yourself you previously weren’t aware of.
Dating after divorce entails a bit of adventure, a lot of self-love and plenty of confidence. If you feel that you’re ready to put yourself out there, then why wait?! Set up an online account with one of the many online dating sites (yes, they probably didn’t exist your last time around!) or join a cooking class, art class or one of a number of clubs, committees etc where you can meet new people who share the same interest as you. Most of all though, be open to anything and everything that comes your way. You never know, you may just discover love right around the corner!