Some of us have to kiss a lot of frogs until we find our prince. In my case I had to wait to find the man of my dreams until after two failed marriages. I remember sobbing nearly 20 years ago while watching Jerry McGuire when Tom Cruise’s character said, “You complete me.”
I mean seriously, don’t we all want to hear that from the person we love? Don’t we all crave feeling that connection deep down in our soul? I recall feeling a sense of emptiness at the time since I didn’t feel it with my then husband. I had always believed it was possible to have that kind of love, but perhaps, I reasoned, it was not in the stars for me.
After my divorce, I was in my late forties and just figured perhaps I am not good at this relationship thing. I mean being divorced twice is a wake-up call to look long and hard at oneself and I did do that. I worked on me, since loving oneself is needed to truly open up to loving another intimately.
I am not sure how I was so fortunate, but on Facebook several years ago I became friends with a man I knew from my neighborhood growing up. We had been acquaintances, had some friends in common over the years, but had never been involved more than that.
After several months of writing, talking, and just getting to know one another we went on a date. It was, without a doubt, the best date I’d ever been on. We were in sync with one another, there was an unbelievably strong chemistry and I felt like I knew him in ways I couldn’t describe. I now realize that is because we are soulmates. We traversed along for many years without each other only to finally come home.
Whether you believe in the kind of a soulmate born from fiction and fairy tales, or simply hope that there is someone out there who is meant just for you, there are some sure signs to tell if you’re on the right track to finding them. And if you’ve found the one who truly understands and knows you (and loves you still), don’t let go — they only come around once in a lifetime!
1. The connection is like nothing you’ve experienced before.
Okay, get your mind out of the gutter here. Soulmates are people you meet who for no explainable reason you share a connection with on a deeper level, much more than anyone else you’ve ever known. You can convey what you’re thinking by just looking at each other. It feels like you have known them forever and you are completely comfortable in their presence. Oh, and to get back into the gutter, the sex is fantastic!
2. You don’t remember being without them.
It is kind of strange, but once you meet your soulmate all others before him become background noise. You can’t even remember what is was like to be without them, and you don’t want to! It feels like they have always been there and that you have known them forever.
3. Chemistry, magnets, and bonds, oh my!
When you meet your soulmate it is a feeling in your gut that pulls you toward each other like magnets. You just know they are the one and there is a unique chemistry you can feel. You are mentally inseparable, often calling or texting each other at the same time and often finishing each other’s sentences. You hurt when they hurt; you smile when they smile. You disagree on things of course but are always on the same page when it really matters.
4. You stand eye to eye and toe to toe.
Soulmates often look into each other’s eyes when speaking, more so than ordinary couples. They also tend to stand squarely in front of each other. It is a part of the intensity of their bond. Their unbreakable bond makes them each feel secure and protected, and knows their partner always has their back.
5. They are the yin to your yang.
You are a dynamic duo, a perfect pair, a true team. You are better people together than apart, you are interconnected. Most importantly, you don’t feel the need to keep searching for more because you are so at peace with what you have. You know that together you are an invincible force. You know home is in each other’s arms where you are one.
Finding your soulmate may not be easy, but once you do you will know it. You will move mountains to be with that person, that one person who holds the other half of your heart.
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