As you venture down your New-Year-New-Me journey or any journey, remember to have compassion for yourself. Not only are you your biggest supporter but you can wind up as your own worst enemy. In order to avoid that, you will need to have compassion for yourself.
As I began to write this article I went trolling on Facebook only to see my initial ideas spread all over like wildfire. That is what I get for sitting back and relaxing today! Well, if I am going to run with the big dogs I had better catch up!
I have seen articles about how to write resolutions and how to follow them. I have seen articles on how to let go of the need to make resolutions and instead do what feels right for you. These are all great and you should get excited about making some life changes in the New Year provided you are ready and not just trying to follow the crowd.
Maybe the New Year is a good time to work towards a new you but if you are not ready to commit to the process of making changes then the timing may not be good. Timing is a big factor in change but the biggest factor to making any change is making sure you are on board. If you have not bought into sincerely making changes via New Year’s resolutions, changes you are contemplating won’t ever be anything but a contemplation. Harsh, I know but hang with me here.
So, how do you know if you are ready to make changes?
Ask yourself the 6 following questions…
1. Are you being honest with yourself?
Have you chosen resolutions that you can realistically accomplish? Are you asking a lot or a little? Are you giving yourself the amount of time you need to be focused or lazy? Or are you jumping on the “New Year” bandwagon because that is what everyone else seems to be doing?
2. Have you done any research?
Just as technology changes and improves so does information in every other industry out there from weight loss to nutrition to psychology to fashion! Know what you are getting yourself into and do your own research to learn about the changes you are taking on. Don’t “learn” from others as they may understand information differently than you.
3. Who will be impacted by your changes?
This is important. Your changes don’t just make a difference in your life but in the lives of those around you particularly those in your intimate inner circle – you know, those people that are allowed within 18 inches of your personal space. Your changes, be they physical or at a deeper level, have the ability to affect more than just you. If your changes are going to impose a great deal of change upon others you’ll need their buy-in as well. Your loved ones may not be looking to make changes for themselves and though they should be willing to support you it should not be at their great sacrifice or stress.
4. What kind of support system do you have in place?
Your support system should be hand-picked friends or family who are aware of your goals AND your timeline. They should also know what is okay and not okay to say to you in order to help you be successful. Verbalize the words you need to hear from them and how they can approach you. Develop code words or some sort of system for when you need that extra kick in the rear to maintain your focus.
5. What are you willing to sacrifice?
Depending on what you are looking to change you might have to be willing to sacrifice certain things or people in your life. This is a HUGE thing because this can turn emotionally unpleasant very quickly and make it hard to follow through on your resolutions. Making changes, taking on serious resolutions or accomplishing goals does not come without its losses along the way. This goes back to being honest with yourself and this may be when you learn more about you than at any other point in your journey. If you are not willing to give up this, that or, the other thing then you are not going to succeed.
6. Can your income support the changes you want to make?
This seems silly to ask BUT depending on what your resolution is you may need to think about budgetary restraints and plan accordingly. Maybe your budget won’t be affected but you need to know this right off the bat. Don’t expect to dress like a Kardashian on a Ramen Noodles income.
Asking yourself these questions will help you determine how successful you will be at keeping your New Year’s resolutions. They may even help you define your goals further which can only help in being successful. As you venture down your New-Year-New-Me journey or any journey, remember to have compassion for yourself. Not only are you your biggest supporter but you can wind up as your own worst enemy. In order to avoid that, you will need to have compassion for yourself.
You can do it!
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