Today is the day. One year ago today Bella’s Chronicles made it’s debut on DivorcedMoms and I officially became a blogger. I can’t thank Cathy and Laura enough for the incredible opportunity to allow me to pour my heart and soul out to you.
I would also like to thank you, the readers who all have stories of your own, for joining me on my journey over the past year.
So much has changed as I look back, and it is all for the better. The research path my writing has led me down has given me a new perspective and much greater understanding. I now understand at a much deeper level what many moms like me go through who have been married to someone exhibiting signs of narcissism and sociopathy. I understand there ARE words and definitions to describe what I have and continue to go through. I understand my story is not as unique as I once thought. I understand the need to reach out and find a way to educate the courts in an effort to prevent even one mom or dad from going through the hell so many others have. I understand the need to educate the courts on parental alienation, and somehow get them to listen and observe those who have been emotionally abused. I pray one day there will be easy ways for the courts to pick out the true abusers from the abused.
I feel one way to do this is to keep talking. We need to keep sharing our stories until they listen…until someone with the right power listens. We can’t ever give up because then the true abusers continue to get their way. We can’t be quiet like they want. We must continue to set healthy boundaries and to protect ourselves and our children from further harm. There is so much left to be done, but we can get there one baby step at a time. We must find ways to heal and continue to heal until all symptoms of PTSD have been driven out of our lives.
I wish it were possible every divorced couple could have a healthy co-parenting relationship, but it is not reality. Some people will find ways to always cut down the other parent, to take them to court as often as they can scheme a reason, use children as pawns, and attempt to alienate and drive healthy parents out of children’s lives. These parents need to be exposed for what they are. I must believe their true colors eventually show.
And so, on the first birthday of Bella’s Chronicles, I wish all parents like me hope and love. I wish you all courage to keep going. One more step, one more day, until we are able to hold our babies as often as we want. Keep looking toward the positive, count your blessings through your tears, and don’t ever give up.