Last night I started my Goal Setting Class. It’s an 8 week course to teach all about not only the setting of goals but the movement towards achieving those goals. As we all sat in our circle discussing our visions for ourselves, one point came through loud and clear: Change is inevitable.
It’s a good thought to keep in mind. Looking in the mirror, I didn’t start out as the person I see there today. It’s a process of evolution, the slow and sometimes painful journey we take to reach who we are at any particular moment. And just as we evolve into one personae, we can evolve out of a personae as well.
Back in my youth, I wanted to be a floor trader in the stock market. I also thought having kids was going to hold me back in my life. Neither of these visions for myself came true. The little stock portfolio that I do own is a collection of employee purchase plan equities from former workplaces. The current value is enough to shout to the world, “I’m not a serious investor!” And I have kids. I’ve seen the changing of diapers, late night feedings, curfews, new driver’s licenses, and struggles over homework and chores. I’ve also seen child-filled wonder, first accomplishments, 20 Mother’s Days, and singing in the car together. My life is richer with my family in it. ‘Nuff said.
No matter what I evolve into, I’ll eventually evolve out of it…while retaining a bit of the primordial ooze that I crawled through on my way to upright walking. My life is a wondrous adventure filled with my own evolution. Asking how I can Get Good at Change is my first step in accepting and embracing the certainty that life will not be as I think it will be.
Probably a good thing, otherwise I’d still have my 80’s haircut.