Ah, if only it was so simple. In our “do it fast, do it now, I don’t want to think about it” world, finding dozens of quick fixes is as accessible as a Google search. My search for the term “How to get over a relationship” turned up 658 million results.
Maybe the better search term would be “how to stop making the same relationship mistakes”. Now we’re down to a reasonable 220 million. You see, I don’t want to go down this road a third time. So I’ve got to take a deep look at myself and figure out what I’m doing to break my marriages.
I’ve already discovered my contaminating behaviors. But how can I break the habit of falling back into old ways? It will take someone’s endless patience and understanding. I will need a willing participant to call me out when I slip backwards. And do it all in a firm, yet respectful, way.
As the saying goes
A happy marriage is the union of two forgivers.
~ Ruth Bell Graham
I know I’m not done with marriage. I believe there is hope for me yet. I believe in my ability to change, to be better, to be forgiving. And most of all, I believe in my own worthiness to be forgiven.