Sabotage yourself? Absolutely. I’m great at it.
I’ve been working on myself a lot this summer. Husband #2’s departure and the disbanding of our business left me with many months of unexpected free time. Heck, I could only look for a new job for so many hours in the day…. Once my eyes started to cross from staring at a computer screen, it was time to get up, jump on the elliptical, and work out a few frustrations.
But I knew that physical activity was only a short-term fix. Eventually I’d have to dig deep inside and address some core issues. Things that I didn’t necessarily like about myself and who I was as a person at this very moment. It’s not fun, but I know that no matter what I find, I have the power and the optimism to change myself into the person I want to be. In no way shape or form do I blame Husband #2 for who I have become…it’s all me. I allowed it. I am the one in charge of my actions and reactions to other people’s attitudes and actions.
While searching the web for ways to build trust in myself, I stumbled across a recipe for sabotage. Oh, yeah, how many of these have I willingly participated in?
How to Sabotage Yourself
- Set an unrealistic goal
- Don’t prepare and don’t break-down tasks into small bits
- Don’t step back, reevaluate, and readjust at any point
- Brutally judge yourself in the end
- Mix, repeat, and serve to those you care about most.
What a great way to guarantee failure!
“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”
It’s an old quote but one that is worth repeating. And one that is worth living.