I can’t fix you, I don’t want to fix you, I want you to be yourself. The only thing I can fix is how I react to you and your issues.
You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him to discover it in himself.
In my journey of self-discovery, I’ve been concentrating a lot on ME and what I did to contribute to our marital woes. One big thing is that I’m a fixer. I fix things, people, and situations. I can’t bear to see someone struggling. I want to help the underdog. I don’t like to see my loved ones hurting.
But I’ve come to realize that I shouldn’t step in to fix unless specifically asked. I can offer help, I can mention a solution, but I can’t take the reigns and lead the show.
And that is OK. I’ve been the responsible one for so long, I want someone else to lead. I want someone else to make the decisions. I want someone else to be the Alpha Male in my life. I’m tired to being the strong one.
Today I’m practicing my weakness.