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Trust and verify

July 05, 2013
by Déjà Vow

On a whim, I picked up a six-pack of Costco cupcakes today.  Oh, yes, so very tasty!  I knew I’d have to do a double workout to cancel out those calories.  So imagine my surprise when I scanned the cupcake container’s bar code into my LoseIt app….and the calorie count came up as 210.

Obviously this 210 calorie figure had to be wrong.  I’ve logged my food intake for close to 7 months now and I have a pretty good idea of how many calories different foods contain.  I love the LoseIt app and trusted it on most things, but the information I was receiving needed to be verified by an outside source. This giant cupcake, with all its frosting-y goodness was not the same as my Lean Cuisine Cheddar Potatoes and Broccoli meal.  No. Way.

I recently read a blog article that boiled down to a simple premise:  Assume Nothing.  This simple concept applies to marriage, divorce, career, everyday life.  And it applied to Costco cupcakes.  As it turns out, a web search yielded a more believable result:  700+ calories.  Now this is along the lines I expected.

The moral of the story is that you don’t have to be a skeptic throughout your life.  You can trust people, labels, things you find on the web, and even hand carved messages on bathroom stalls.  But take the extra step to verify when you feel that things might be somewhat off.  Doing so will allow you to trust in your own gut instinct and reaffirm the trust you put into another person.

During your separation or divorce you must trust and verify. The person you married is no longer the person who has your back.  As nice as your divorce may be, eventually it will come down to one premise — what’s in it for me.

Trust and verify.  Assume nothing.  I’m adding both to my collection of plaques.

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Déjà Vow

Doing it over & over & over again until I do it right…I am every woman. I’m normal, intelligent, have children, work for a living, putz in my garden, and like to cook. I also am a perfectionist, judgmental, critical, and fail at relationships. I love being married, I am supportive of my husband (whoever it may be at the time!), I am willing to learn new things, reading all kinds of books, and enjoy traveling to places big and small. My ultimate vacation would be a cruise around the world.... Read More

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