When it comes to life or career path, at what point do you say “I can’t do this by the book, I’ve got to do it my way”? Is that good? Is it bad? Sometimes enough advice is enough. How do you handle that? Listen to Episode 15 of my podcast on what to do when your inner child speaks…
As I discuss in this episode, I have a long history of making decisions where I struggle between doing what will make the most money or be the most conforming and what I feel is right in my gut. I’ve learned over the years that I probably should depend more on my intuition. I reach a point where I have so much input from other people and my inner-child screams “Stop telling me what to do!”.
Have you ever had that happen? I try to listen to several different viewpoints when making an important decision. Yea, ok maybe several is too many. I’ve toned it down to asking only 2 or 3 people for their opinion because too many cooks spoil the soup… and it drives me absolutely insane with all the conflicting opinions. I would be second-guessing myself all over the place!
However, it’s not always that easy, just going with your gut. How many of you out there are like I am… you have all kinds of creative ideas and dreams – you want to start your own jewelry making company, you want to become a firefighter, you want to write a book, you want to take a job with a startup but fear there may be a risk? HOWEVER… you are the sole supporter of your household and you need to have a steady ample income to feed your kids and keep a roof over their head. This dilemma has been the story of my life.
I have been divorced for 16 years and I have 3 children who are now 23, 20, and 18. For years it was a struggle trying to make ends meet, for several years it was impossible as my ex went MIA and had no help financially or custody-wise. I had the kids 24/7 with no family in the area either. So most of my decisions were based on “How do I get the most money in the quickest way?” Which resulted in me taking several jobs because the pay was better than anything else I found (which wasn’t any sort of gold mine, believe me) but I hated the job. It wasn’t something I wanted to do or was even good at. I just thought I had to feed my kids.
I wonder what would have happened if I had waited and not jumped at the first thing. Waited until I found something that felt right and not just paid right. I probably would have saved myself a lot of misery. I don’t know though, it’s a tough call.
What if I had started working on my dream for a book and my podcast several years earlier than I did. It’s really what I wanted to do but I thought it was a pipe dream. So here I am at 52 trying to make things happen. I won’t lie my work life sucked ass for most of the last 16 years. In fact downright miserable. What would have happened if I had listened to my inner child way back when?
That is something some women can ask themselves now instead of waiting. I’ve seen some of you who have dreams of a certain career and business but the pressure of having to feed your kids is an immediate need. There are ways to bridge the gap. You might be able to go for your dreams sooner than you think. Listen to my podcast to find out more…