We women are so caught up in our daily lives, giving of ourselves as mothers to our children, daughters to our parents, employees to our businesses and wives to our husbands that we often forget to nurture the most important person in all these relationships –OURSELVES .
Relationships are the only place that you are able to create and express higher aspects of yourself. It is only through relationships whether it be as a friend, a wife or mother than you have the ability within this experience to become who you are really want to be.
Relationships allow you the grand opportunity to construct who you really are especially if gone into for the right reasons . And the amazing thing about this construction is, that you can use your grandest visions and your most ambitious dreams to become who you really want .It is in this, that you have the ability to conceptualize SELF to its highest form.
Let me give you an example of what I mean by conceptualizing of self. Let’s say you have had an abusive marriage, you have two choices in front of you,
1. You can either lose your self worth and become embittered due this experience and choose to be the result of what has happened to you. Living your life blaming your ill fate on an abusive or alcoholic husband OR…
2. You can create and become a woman who isstronger because of this experience . Do you see this difference?
The power really lies with you and what you have conceptualized for your higher self from every experience you encounter.
This is just an extreme example. But there are literally dozens of experiences we encounter in our lives daily, be it in our personal sphere or our business sphere that allow for the amazing opportunity for creation of higher growth of self .
To become our “higher self” we need to take the time to reflect, be conscious of this, and see a vision for the woman we want to be.
As women we are often pre-programmed to put others before ourselves but our 1st relationship must be with ourselves.
- You must first cherish and love yourself before you can cherish and love another.
- You must first honour yourself before you can honour the others in your life.
- You must first see yourself as worthy and important before you can see that in another.
This can only be done if we allow time for ourselves and sometimes unfortunately we are so caught up doing what we consider our primary duty to our other relationships that we forget to take time for the most important relationship-that is the one we have with ourselves.
If we do this with true authenticity then we can rest assured that the relationships we have in our lives will continue to grow in their most authentic, creative and nurturing form.
Self awareness and empowerment hold the key to freedom and raising the status of women in our society. Economic independence and financial security that comes with it no doubt does impart self confidence to women ,however if a woman is not equipped with self awareness and self realization within herself it is difficult to sustain the confidence that comes with a good education and a good job .
This is why it is not uncommon to see well qualified women who hold powerful jobs weakening and losing their self esteem when confronted by a difficult partner, in-laws or, a unreasonable employer at work.
I once read a quote that had a powerful impact on me. And I would like to share it with you here, it said:
“life follows you, absolutely everything you experience in your life is a result of what you have given out in your thoughts and feelings .life is not happening to you ..Life is following you .Your destiny is in your hands whatever you think, whatever you feel, will decide your life …”
I believe all women have this capacity and those of us that sometimes have moments of self doubt about this, I urge you to take a quiet minute for yourselves and listen to your heart, it will tell you that you undoubtedly are amazing women and perhaps all you need is to give your head a loving nudge to make it believe what your heart knew all along .