Ok, I’ve had enough of spending Friday and Saturday nights catching up on my taped reality shows, babysitting my grandkid or trying out the newest flavor of my favorite grocery store brand ice cream.
I’m ready for some serious dating and companionship. I want to go out to dinner, a movie or even a walk on the beach.
But I don’t want to just throw myself out there in a desperate attempt for male conversation.
I know dating has changed since the last time I dated which was over twenty years ago. With social media and online dating sites more popular now, face to face interacting when getting to know someone seems like an ancient memory like bell bottom jeans and shoulder pads.
Here are some tips that could help you and I get off the couch and get back out into the dating world.
Get Over It: Be honest about what went wrong in your past relationship, admit you’re not perfect and need help, make a list of changes and do them. Get over it!
Reinvent Yourself: Makeover Time! Look in the mirror, would you date yourself? Why or why not? Update your style from the inside out(clothes, hair, makeup), add a pop of color and don’t be afraid to accessorize with some jewelry!
Get Out: Get our of your comfort zone. You don’t have to have a date to get out and about on Friday and Saturday nights. Do something different, shake up your weekends and put yourself in the position to meet someone new.
Develop A Winning Approach: Have an approachable attitude; a smile always wins, keep it sweet and simple and just smile. I know it takes courage to change. A man wants to know if you are fun, interesting, caring and loving. He doesn’t want your interview speech, your words and what who you really are should match.
Divorce can crush your confidence and self-esteem, it can cause you to think something is wrong with you. There are a lot of people out there today that are feeling the same way, people who would surprise you if you really knew how they were feeling.
How Dating Has Changed In The Last Twenty Years:
A phone call has been replaced with a text message.
Social Media has made it easier to get in touch with people; but also takes away some of the intimacy of person-to-person contact. Because of this fact people are more likely to initiate contact.
Dating in the Social Media era can give you more opportunities to meet new people by reading their posts, tweets or text messages, but you will have to keep in mind, is this information truthful or is this person lying. Online we can be anyone we want, but if you really want to get to know someone, use your common sense, your instincts and face to face contact.
Today there are so many different options to meet people, from just a “hookup” to serious dating for the purpose of marriage. There is speed dating if you are to busy to fill out the online applications on the dating sites. Now if these don’t work there is still the old fashion friend or relative set updates with someone they believe is just perfect for you because they can’t believe you are still single.
While Social Media offers a chance to interact with multiple numbers of people, it still should not take the place of old school face to face interaction. The physical togetherness, conversation, and affection can give you better insight into who this person really is and if he is really the right one for you.
So, if you want to get back into the dating game, technology is fine for this new generation of meeting people with the many options available. But I still favor the old fashion way of courting, when the guy asks the lady out for a date and they actually go out, sit, talk and get to know each other in a friendly setting. Call it the romantic in me.
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