When conflict and sexual frustration have developed in a relationship, there has been a long history of unhappy feelings and bad behavior from both people that have created your sexless marriage.
Your partner knows all about the negative energy you have both created. While she is feeling unhappy and emotionally exhausted, she also knows how she has come up short in how she has been treating you too.
When a woman feels like this, it’s impossible for her to feel sexually attracted to you.
But often us men don’t feel the same way.
We tend to think that connecting sexually now would help reconnect and sooth the bad feelings and negative energy that you’re both feeling.
She thinks this is INSANE.
This is a huge turn-off for her. To her, you wanting sex right now feels unattractive, needy, un-manly, and a little desperate.
There’s no way that she’s going to want to have sex with someone she’s not attracted to.
She knows that she’s treated you badly, so how could you possibly still feel attracted to her and want to have sex?
If you consistently make sexual advances toward a woman who is feeling unattractive she will also find YOU unattractive.
If you request sex from a woman who KNOWS she’s been both acting unattractively and not showing that she’s attracted to you, she WILL lose respect for you.
There’s a very old cliché that goes: ‘Women need to feel intimacy before having sex – men need to have sex to feel intimacy’.
Clichés are born for a reason. There is a lot of truth to this. But you’re not a slave to it.
So what can you do?
In this video, we discuss a change you can make in how you’re showing up in your relationship that can flip a switch and rekindle affection, trust and respect in your relationship.
You must choose a new principle for yourself and start operating by it today. The new principle will mean taking sex off the table unless the feelings YOU require are present.
The new mindset requires you to raise your standards and expectations for HER to earn sexual intimacy with YOU. You are the prize here, not her. Scary stuff, huh? I know. That is a critical mind-shift.
It’s time you hit the reset button and start acting like the prize you were before things got rough.
It’s time to remember and embrace the YOU who was irresistible to her in the beginning, before bad feelings and bad behavior became a problem.
Taking sex off the table until your conditions are met is essential.
These conditions are FIRST about meeting the expectations you have for yourself in regard to how you feel and how you treat her.
These conditions are ALSO about her choosing to meet your expectations for how you want to feel and how you expect to be treated.
This is called “setting your boundaries” – first for yourself, then for her.
This isn’t easy work. It’s a huge change for most of us. We can help you understand this and exactly HOW this is going to go for you.
You could carry on with how things have been, or you could make the decision to DO something different. Something new. I guarantee you’ll feel a whole lot better about yourself.
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You WILL become a clearer, stronger, more confident man only through other men. Your woman cannot take you there – and she doesn’t WANT to…trust me on that.
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