To my Ex husband, I forgive you.
Sadly our divorce will be finalised soon and that will officially dissolve our marriage.
However before the divorce is complete and this chapter of our life is closed I just want to say, even though you hurt me beyond words and despite all the pain and heartache caused on both our parts, I forgive you.
I forgive you because I can’t cry any more tears, I can’t live with hatred in my heart for the man I spent 9 years of my life with, for the man who made my dreams come true and for the man who blessed me with the greatest gift of life, our daughter Mia.
If I don’t forgive, I would be trapped in a prison of bitterness and hatred that would prohibit me from moving on, finding peace and happiness again and I hope to teach our daughter that no matter what hurt people cause us, we should always forgive so we can live a life of freedom.
I am truly heartbroken and to be honest it took me a while to come to terms with the fact that you will no longer be my husband and me your wife.
From the moment I met you and lovingly married you, I never envisioned my life without you and I would be lying if I said I didn’t miss you and some of the little things you used to do, but I don’t miss other things that caused great headache, for that I am relieved.
You were, still are and always will be a love of my life and I know I will never love anyone the way I loved you.
I cherish the time we were together, we have some amazing and wonderful memories and I can’t even begin to describe how thankful I am for those moments, and for the gift of our beautiful daughter, for that I will always love you.
That being said I know there is someone out there for each of us that will bring us the happiness and fulfilment for us to enjoy and share our life with again.
I know we will encounter a love different from ours, but just as special if not more so.
I wish you every happiness in everything you do, I hope we can put all the hurt behind us and become great friends if only for the sake of our beautiful daughter because if we can’t do that we have failed her and she had no part in our marriage failure.
I want us to teach Mia that she came into the world through our love and even though our love has changed our love for her hasn’t.
I’ve learnt not everyone is meant to play the role in your life they initially acquire, people come in and out of our life and relationships change along the way but one thing remains the same, every person we cross paths with, however great or insignificant the encounter, enters our life for a reason and lessons should be learnt from each person however good or bad.
The lessons you taught me unfortunately are not all positive ones but positive changes and future encounters will come from those lessons.
Even though our marriage ended in sadness I can look back on our years with such fondness and smile with genuine happiness to have had our time as husband and wife and I hope you do too.
I find peace with the closing of this chapter and excited to see what the future holds for not only myself but for you too.
You will always carry a special place in my heart.
Your Ex Wife