Divorce laws related to the financial needs of the children are set up so that the parent with the highest income pays child support. It is very rare to have a couple with matching incomes divorce and neither have to pay anything.
I have 50/50 custody of our children with my ex-husband. I pay him child support and wondered if this is now the norm since we share custody or something dictated by the state I live in, which is what I was told by my attorney and why I agreed to it among other issues. When I tell people this they are shocked and ask why since it is a 50/50 agreement. He was not working at the time of our divorce (spousal support is also paid by me) but he is now employed.
I wonder if this is worth revisiting with an attorney to get it dismissed or the amount lessened now that he is working and I can barely make ends meet due to the money paid to him. I am curious if there are other Mothers in the same situation.
Each state has child support guidelines that dictate how much child support is paid. That amount is based on time with the children and income of the parents. It is common for child support to be paid by one parent to the other is a 50/50 custody situation. A parent will pay less child support in such situations but, if one parent has a higher income than the other, the state will take that into consideration when deciding custody and child support.
In my opinion, it is well worth revisiting with the court if he is now employed. His income needs to be taken into consideration when determining child support payments. You should petition the courts for a downward modification in child support and spousal support if you can prove that he now works and has an income.
I suggest you do not share with him that you are going to request a modification in child support. You don’t want to give him a warning that would enable him to quit his job and become unemployed again. Hire an attorney, file the petition and let him be notified through legal channels.
As for other mothers in your situation, sure there are a lot of mothers in your situation. There are also a lot of fathers in your situation. Divorce laws related to the financial needs of the children are set up so that the parent with the highest income pays child support. It is very rare to have a couple with matching incomes divorce and neither have to pay anything.