Are you a good or bad parent? It’s really about your own perspective about yourself. The words good and bad are very subjective and don’t describe much.
Most parents do the best they can with what they know. It’s up to you, the parent, to decide to become the best person you can be for your kids. Here are a few things about parenting to keep in mind:
Your parenting style:
You might not realize it but your parenting style, the way you raise your kids, can affect the relationship you have with them and their personal development.
Have you ever stopped to think about the way you talk to your kids, how you discipline them and how it might make them feel towards you or about themselves? If you have, awesome! If you haven’t, you should.
Your parenting style can be the reason your child doesn’t tell you about his day or that they do.
You can benefit from understanding different parenting styles and the style you currently use. This can be the starting point for you to develop an improved relationship with your child, especially if you’re struggling to understand them.
Psychologist Diana Baumrind identified four primary parenting styles:
Can you identify which parenting style you have? Take a guess before you look at the descriptions below, and see if your guess matches the description.
Enforces strict rules. Failure to follow the rules results in punishment without explanation. Reasoning by the parent is answered by the statement, “Because I said so.” These parents have unreasonable expectations and want to be obeyed without resistance.
Establishes rules and guidelines for their children to follow. But, these parents are willing to listen and respond to questions and be more forgiving. Baumrind says these parents “monitor and impart clear standards for their children’s conduct. They are assertive, but not intrusive and restrictive. Their disciplinary methods are supportive, rather than punitive. They want their children to be assertive as well as socially responsible, and self-regulated as well as cooperative.”
Very easy going parents who have few guidelines for their children. They rarely discipline and have low expectations. They’re more responsive than demanding, nontraditional and lenient. These parents seem to take on the role of a friend rather than the parent role.
This parent has little interest in their child, being unresponsive and withdrawn. It is a detached relationship and in extreme cases, parents reject or neglect their children, even of basic needs.
What’s the best way to parent?
I personally think authoritarian is a great way to parent. I also think permissive parenting has some benefits as well. In the end, it comes down to how your child responds. Find what is best for your child by talking to her. What have you asked your child lately?
There are many components to raising a happy and well-adjusted child, including social influences, culture, and the home environment. “It takes a village to raise a child.” Be open to involving supportive people, including family members and teachers to create the right environment.
Add to the conversation! Tell us about your parenting style how parents can relate better to their children.
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