You’ve seen the movie, He’s Just Not That Into You, right?
Well, I’ve always liked the movie. I’m a Ginnifer Goodwin fan. And Bradley Cooper is pretty nice to look at too. But it wasn’t until I started dating that I could really relate to the damn plot, especially Ginnifer’s role of trying to find Mr. Awesome. Except for the fact that I’m still single, Justin Long hasn’t showed up at my front door, I have kids, and well, you get the point.
If you haven’t seen it, you totally should. It makes light of dating/relationships in general and it’s pretty spot-on when it comes to some of the shenanigans we put ourselves through. If you can’t relate, you’re an exception and don’t judge!
We as women focus too much on “signs,” over-analyze, and don’t accept some relationships as they are: just not meant to be. The movie is based on Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo’s book, and throws out the tough love advice on how we need to stop making excuses for men and stop wasting our precious time. He’s just not that into you. It’s that simple. Ugh.
I’ve been on enough dates to know when the guy is not interested or likes to play games. I’m a single mom. I’m busy. And I don’t have time for that shit.
I’ve learned that if a guy is interested, it’s obvious! And if he isn’t, well, that’s pretty damn obvious too.
I don’t want your occasional chummy texts like Your awesome! (Yeah, here we go with the spelling again). You want a friend? That’s fine, super. Go high-five your best bud.
Oh, you haven’t responded to my texts or calls in a few days because you’re so busy but you’ve been posting pics on Instagram like nobody’s business? Oh yeah, I’ve been busy too…deleting your number.
I had been seeing a guy here and there for a couple of months. He lived an hour away and mentioned the long distance bothered him, but he’d still like to see me. That’s fine. Cool. We had dinner a few times, hung out, etc.
It was apparent he wasn’t super interested. I got the hint when he would cancel our plans last minute, send one-word texts only when prompted, and the fact he NEVER asked anything about me. He was a complete ass now that I think of it. Again, that’s fine. Moving on.
One night, he was texting me more than usual. (As in, initiating conversation, completing full sentences. Whoa!) I suppose he was bored or he was just resting his index finger from all that swiping on Tinder when I received this:
“You’re a good woman you know that?”
Wait a minute. What?
Mother effer, please.
It’s obvious you don’t want to date me and you throw THAT out there?! Yeah, I know I’m a good woman. And I’m looking for a good man. So, what is it you are looking for exactly?
Why do men say shit like that to women they are not interested in dating – that one phrase that has us scratching our heads as we are waiting for the other shoe to drop. I’m a good woman….but what??? Just say you’re not interested and move on to the 22-year-old with no kids who likes to “Watch Netflix and Chill.” I don’t need validation and most certainly don’t want the “You’re A Good Woman” spiel, thank you very much.
Actions are much louder than words. Truth is, I’m just not that into you. Your loss. Moving on.
[Knock, Knock] Oh, is that you, Justin Long? I’ll be right there!
Dating is tough, and I’ve learned the dating pool as a divorced parent is very shallow. As in, inflatable kiddie-sized pool in the backyard, shallow…that is filled with rainwater and hasn’t been swam in all summer, shallow. Crawling with slimy bugs and toads.
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