6 Pieces of Advice Every Single Moms Needs To Hear
Share on Tumblr
By Cathy Meyer, Founding Editor - September 16, 2016

The first year after my divorce was chaos. After 17 years of having a great parenting partner, I was left to do it all on my own. I felt as if someone had dropped me on Mars and told me to “survive” as best I could. It didn’t help that I had no single mom friends or role models. I was surrounded by married parents helping and shoring each other up.

There was Madonna, also a single parent at the time and since music got me through the hard times, she became a bit of a role model…from afar, of course. Fortunately, I did eventually meet other single moms who became fantastic friends who helped. We showered each other with support, each other’s children with love and got back on our feet and carried on. Their support and advice, I will forever be grateful for.

And, if you will allow, I’d like to share with you valuable advice about being a single mom, that I learned all those years ago as a single mom.

 Irrational Woman.jpg

1. Be Levelheaded

It can be incredibly difficult to try to stifle your emotions when making decisions regarding your children. For example, you may be hurt by your ex-husband's quick remarriage or his infidelity that led to the divorce, but if he is a good father then there is no legitimate reason to greatly limit the amount of time he can spend with the kids.

Make decisions based on what is best for everyone involved, especially your children, instead of what will help you feel in control.

 Bubble Bath.jpg

2. Don’t Forget to Take Care of You

One of the best pieces of advice for single, divorced moms is to not forget themselves. Being a mom is difficult enough, but having to do it alone following the end of a marriage can be downright exhausting. Women should avoid falling into the trap of always making completely selfless decisions.

A woman who never thinks of herself will quickly lose herself. And, if you lose yourself, years down the road you may find yourself alone and regretting decisions you made while being wholly focused on your children.

 woman laptop blonder.gif

3. Take Care of the Important Stuff

Single moms need to fully understand what is going on with their lives and stay on top of everything in case of an emergency.

What is the state of your finances?

When is maintenance due for the car?

Who will you call in case of an emergency with your child?

What are the terms of the divorce agreement?

Having full knowledge of what is going on and what needs to be done will avoid future problems.

 Dating After Divorce.jpg

4. Keep Your Children out of Your Dating Life

It is unfair to children to go from having an intact family to suddenly having a parade of suitors come in and out of their lives. It is a good idea to wait to introduce men to children until the woman is relatively sure that the man will be around for a while.

 Sad Woman Friends.jpg

5. Surround Yourself with Support

Having a confidante can be invaluable for single divorced moms, especially if that person has been down a similar path. Find someone to confide in, whether it is a friend, family member, or professional therapist. Being able to talk about your feelings will equip you to be a better mom and more content woman.

 Divorced Woman.jpg

6. Take Time to Adjust to Your New Role

It can take quite a bit of adjustment when a marriage ends in divorce. Divorced, single moms should give themselves time to adjust and should keep in mind that leaping into a new relationship or a move across the country may not be the best idea right away. Expect and allow a period of adjustment for both yourself and your children.

Share on Tumblr
Recommended For You
5 Lessons We Should Teach Our Millennial Sons

Modern day men fall into three maladaptive groups. Millinnial men have failed to learn five important life lessons.


Luxury Travel On The Cheap: Practical Tips For The Single Parent

You don't need to break the bank to travel with a sense of luxury! All you need is planning and attitude and you can experience luxury travel on the cheap.


8 Tips For Becoming a Successful Single Mom

As a single divorcee mom, you may find yourself struggling, but a life of enjoyment and fulfilment for both you and your children is possible.


Around The Web
Comments 0 Comments

Enter the text you see in the image.

DivorcedMoms
 Wants YOU...
To Become A Contributor
DivorcedMoms Direct

Subscribe to our FREE newsletter!

Go!