Women who have recently had their divorce finalized often feel a little wary about rejoining dating again after divorce. They are uncertain about the possibility of rejection, of being hurt again, and maybe even being used.
A divorce is a hard thing to move past, but it doesn’t mean that you can never fall in love again. Go shopping, buy yourself a new dress, change you makeup or hairstyle, enjoy yourself and show others that you deserve happiness! There are hundreds of people who have met their soulmate using online dating sites, and you can be one of them.
1. Regain Your Confidence
No matter where you are, whether it be the grocery store, the gym, the DMV, or your kid’s school, you want to maintain an air of confidence. Keep your head held high, have good posture, and never be afraid to smile and make eye contact when you greet people. People will notice you and they’ll want to get to know you because they perceive you as being approachable.
2. Don’t Let Your Looks Go
A divorce is a devastating blow, and for a while you may not care about how you look. Don’t do that! Sure, men notice when you look good, but it is more about you. It is a proven fact that when you look your best, you feel your best, and that translates into how you carry and feel about yourself.
3. Stop Making Comparisons
You cross paths with an attractive woman and your first instinct is to compare yourself to her. Or, you may hear that your ex is in a new relationship. This news leads you to pick apart the other woman and compare yourself to see what she has that you don’t. Not only is this counterproductive, but it’s just foolish. You are a unique individual, and just because you ex has moved on to someone new, it does not mean you are undesirable.
4. Don’t Pretend to Know What Men Want
Men are fickle creatures and each one has their own likes and dislikes when it comes to a woman. Just do what makes you happy and you’ll find a guy that can appreciate you for who you are.
5. Go Out and Have Fun
You aren’t going to meet anyone if you are home and moping about. Even if you try online dating, if you are all woe-is-me and not fun to talk to, you won’t attract many men. Now that you’re a single woman, go out and have fun! Smile, laugh and make an eye contact. These are the sure signals that you like the guy.
6. Do Not Become a Bitter Betty
Sure, going through a divorce and having a failed marriage behind you isn’t something that you can easily get past. However, you don’t want to dwell on that pain and let it hurt you even more. Instead of letting that hurt you feel toward you ex turn you bitter, look at it from an optimistic point of view and be grateful that you had that marriage to teach you things about yourself, what you want in a relationship, and learn from what may have went wrong.
7. Be Approachable
Never go out when you’re in a bad mood. The whole purpose of going out is to have fun and enjoy yourself. If you happen to meet a man, that’s great! When they see you having fun, you will be more likely to attract great guys.
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