Daughters of Divorce: Overcome the Legacy of Your Parents’ Breakup and Enjoy a Happy, Long-lasting Relationship
By Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW and Tracy Clifford
Are you a daughter of divorce? If so, Terry Gaspard’s Daughters of Divorce is a must read. What makes this book distinctive is that Terry teams up with her own daughter Tracy to write about the typical effects of divorce on daughters. For example, they discuss possible pitfalls of a wound in the father/daughter relationship after divorce, such as repeatedly choosing the wrong partner, loss of trust, difficulty being vulnerable, and distancing oneself in relationships. These topics are all tackled using examples of actual women who are daughters of divorce and participated in Terry’s study.
Daughters of Divorce is insightful and thoughtfully written. Using research from divorce experts and Terry’s own studies, it clearly outlines the potential consequences that females can face when their parent's marriage dissolves. Easy to read and packed with references from Terry's research as well as that of others, this mother-daughter team has explored this topic thoroughly and completely and presented a book that is a great contribution to this topic.
In addition, Terry and Tracy share their personal reflections at the end of each chapter - an enlightening and personal touch that gives the reader a profound connection to the authors. Gaspard positions the goal of her book here: “We will explore ways of resolving issues from the past as well as accepting and forgiving, so that we may repair our ability to find lasting love and self-worth.” She does all that and much more.
Whether you are a parent who has been through a divorce, the partner of a woman who is a daughter of divorce, or a professional working with a female whose parents are divorcing, this book will enlighten and enrich your perspective. Through power-packed action steps, it tells readers how to overcome issues such as mistrust and low self-esteem, how to repair a fractured relationship with one’s father, and how to build a healthy relationship with an intimate partner.
Daughters of Divorce is a nice change from the usual dry academic approach taken by most books on the subject. Terry and Tracy not only show you how to revisit your past and how to deal with it, but they show you how to move on to have real, intimate partnerships that stand the test of time.
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