I love the phrase “if you don’t know, than no”. I use it when a client is unsure about love, marriage or having children and wants to know what they should do. The premise is actually quite simple. If you do not know if you love someone, you don’t. The same goes for whether or not you should have kids or get married. These are things that one does not commit to unless they are absolutely sure.
When contemplating divorce, the questions and answers are a lot more complicated. Love, marriage, and children will do this to someone. Still, it is imperative that someone thinking about divorce goes through some questions and does so with the utmost honesty, introspection, and vulnerability. Otherwise, there is no real clarity and a lack of clarity yields poor decisions and regret.