Hannah Montana and Billy Ray Cyrus were a popular TV thing not even five years ago. True story! You can even look it up on the Internet. I don’t know where you were when it ended but I cried a little bit on the inside. And then a funny thing happened on the way up the pop charts. Hannah became Miley and Liam Hemsworth became single. It’s funny how the stars align and the world turns on its axis to find a former wholesome child star straddling a wrecking ball in the buff. But I digress. In any event, I suggest that men get to know Miley music a little more than they’d probably like to if for no other reason than the nuggets of wisdom they can gain from doing so.
For instance, they may find out there is this thing in the U.S.A. called a party. It’s a fun event that demands some social capital and perhaps a rendezvous with a dance floor and two left feet. Men like parties up until they’re about 28. It is at this point that they find themselves begrudgingly walking into a room with a lot of people, going immediately to the drink station and clasping a beer as if dropping it would set off World War III. Perhaps buying ‘Party in the U.S.A.’ and letting go of his pride could help man break out a bit from their norm.
We can’t stop and we won’t stop, says women who have had enough boredom from a loveless marriage to a nice guy named Sheldon. They’re forging a new path and yet when they search high and low for someone that can keep up with them, they find frustration like Charlie Sheen finds anger. To men, slowing down is inevitable, natural and acceptable and women who don’t slow down are holding on to a past that should be long forgotten. If they’d just listen to ‘We Can’t Stop’ by Miley Cyrus, they could get a glimpse into the energy women have for life, zest and unbridled enthusiasm.
Women do come in like a wrecking ball. They tend to fall fast and fall hard, especially when compared to men. Women are not indifferent or too cool for school when it comes to affection, emotion and attachment. Said another way, they are heart on their sleeve and when they say that emotional availability in a man is important to them, it’s because men can often have a Superman complex that stunts their ability to show feelings and excitement. To the men out there, take your eyes off of the nakedness that is Miley in the ‘Wrecking Ball’ video and listen to the words coming out of her mouth. You may learn something.
There is a climb that is infinite, whether we want it to be or not-these being words and thoughts of women around the world. This is especially true when it comes to dating, finding the one and working on a relationship. It’s not about instant gratification or walking away because the rain crashed through the umbrella. Instead, it’s about knowing there will always be another mountain and telling yourself you’re going to make it move. These positive conversations with yourself are essential to breaking through when there seem to be no end to the barriers. And yes, women do get frustrated with men who give up on a relationship (or a potential one) instead of taking the climb.
Thank you Miley for your words of singing wisdom that can and should give men a glimpse into women, life and themselves. And for the record, I did not cry a little bit on the inside when Hannah Montana ended. I did, however, search high and low for the soundtrack to ‘Bolt’ which Miley did voice over and a couple songs for. Admitting it is always the first step. I’m not sure what the second one is.