Starting a new relationship is always linked to both excitement and a bit of fear. Will this be the one to last? Will you be disappointed again? Is there anything you can do to prevent eventual disappointment in your next relationship? The answer to the final question is yes.
Choosing a suitable partner that you have similar goals with is important for a successful relationship. To avoid disappointment in your next relationship, however, you will have to think beyond initial compatibility.
Here are 4 practical tips will help ensure harmony and avoid disappointment in your next relationship.
Have Realistic Expectations
The easiest way to make a relationship fail is to have a long list of unnecessary and unrealistic expectations.
Realistic expectations are one of the keys to feeling content in just about every aspect of life. When in a relationship, you will have to make some compromises. The trick is to know what’s inherently important to you in a relationship and what you can compromise with for the sake of making a partner happy.
Unrealistic expectations will put a strain on your relationship right from the start. Nobody is perfect and your partner will probably have some flaws (just like you do).
The two of you can certainly work on becoming better people together. Does he have a goal that he’s too afraid to pursue right now? Encouragement can help him get there. Are you keeping a job that’s far from great because you’re worried about the financial implications of finding a new one? A good partner will help you understand what’s toxic for you, making change easier.
Still, understand the fact that we all have habits and hidden values that cannot be changed. If you see a red flag right from the start, don’t enter the relationship hoping that something will eventually change.
Deal with Your Emotional Baggage
Emotional baggage is the biggest enemy of meaningful, happy relationships.
We have all been hurt in the past. Holding on to the hurt and the pain when you get with a new partner, however, is bad.
Your next partner does not deserve to be held accountable for the pain somebody else caused you. Even if they’re truly in love with you, there will be disappointment if you have not healed yet.
Past relationships have made you the person you are today – cautious, kind, knowledgeable and probably a little bit damaged. Learn your lesson and let go of the past. If you keep on reliving the issues you had in a former relationship, chances are that you’ll find it impossible to achieve happiness with somebody new.
Communication is Essential When You Feel Hurt
Do you shut down when angry or hurt? Do you stop talking to your partner until you’re no longer mad? While such a response is probably natural to you, it’s far from constructive. Keeping everything inside without communicating can lead to a massive quarrel in the future.
Happy and meaningful relationships are built upon open and honest communication. Talk to your partner about the small things and annoyances, talk to them about the big issues. Make decisions together. If you shut your partner off, chances are that they’ll also become closed off. Eventually, you will grow distant.
Problems and challenges give you the opportunity to grow as people and as a couple if you learn how to handle such situations. Try to tell your partner how you feel. You will probably have the urge to shut the conversation down but push yourself. Once you get over the initial discomfort, you’ll find the conversation to be quite liberating.
Know When to Walk Out
We all hope for happiness and with experience, you will know how to choose the right people to make part of your life. Still, relationships can sometimes fail, despite our best intentions.
It’s important to know when it’s time to say “enough.” If you stay in a bad relationship, you will only make yourself and the other person suffer. As a person who has some experience, you should know when things become damaged beyond repair. Too hard to read, again.
Put yourself first and know what you want. Everybody deserves happiness and a loving partner. Often, however, these will not happen on their own. A bit of work and some compromise will be required to get that fairytale ending. If both you and your effort are committed enough to avoid disappointment, chances are that you’ll be capable of overcoming everything that destiny throws your way.