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Here is a snippet from the last Our Family Wizard e-mail Prince sent me:
“When Luca comes home from boarding school at the end of the year, are you wanting to have him at your house any portion of the time?”
Here’s my reply:
“I would like to have Luca every other weekend, the weekends that Franny is here, when he comes back.”
Stay tuned, folks.
I survived a bad divorce. Then I survived a REALLY bad custody battle. My ex-husband, “Prince Machiavelli,” got pretty much everything except for my sense of humor and most of my marbles. Oh, and my name isn’t actually Pauline. I write under a pseudonym because I am always in post-divorce peril and the last thing I need is for Prince to drag me back to court. Don’t you feel better about your life now?
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I can’t wait till I learn to reply in a brief factual way. Thanks for the mini-lesson!
It’s an acquired skill, that’s for sure.
I’m bummed that you have to resort to such a clipped way to communicate. You are strong.
Your ex isn’t a great grammarian, is he? That question was barely literate.
I like texting because it forces us to be short
Good luck with the response.
BTW I love the kitten
Fingers crossed!
Not too difficult to extrapolate the deeper meaning of the email, Pauline. He may as well have written “I can’t handle Luca 100% of the time.”
That’s how I read it.
I read it the same way, and I always figured this would be the case. He doesn’t want all the grunt work, he just wants to make all the decisions.
In March, you wrote “Prince claims that I owe him close to $10,000 for the family therapy”.
(1) How’s that spinning out, and (2) how does his email affect the custody agreement?
1. He finally gave up the harrassment, because our legal agreement clearly stated that he paid ALL of Luca’s expenses in boarding school, down to the pencils. Also, when I spoke to the boarding school director, he said therapy was included in the price of tuition — if a kid had one session a week or five sessions, a week, the tuition price didn’t change. So it was all harrassment and, shall we say, untruths. Surprise!
2. The e-mail doesn’t affect the custody agreement. The custody agreement actually says we’re supposed to work towards Luca being with me part of the time. Where it gets murky is that Prince has all major decision-making power, even if Luca were to come with me 100% of the time. Changing that would mean going back to court to legally modify custody and child support.
So … when is the end of the school year and does Luca return for another year?
He returns when he works through all the levels at his boarding school which is most likely the end of 2012. Then he’d transfer to a high school where we live — they do rolling admissions.
In your April 2011 post, you show a picture of you holding one of your babies. Luca appears to have inherited your graceful hands.
Do you think the wilderness camp and the boarding school have helped to repair your relationship with Luca?
And do you think Prince will back off of the blame-game now?
Thank you, absolutely, and no.