By Allana Pratt For Good Men Project
Question: Where is the best place to go to meet other single parents? I am a single dad trying to date and I really don’t want to be that creepy guy that picks women up on the playground – “Hey baby, nice jungle gym, want to grab a drink.” Don’t see that working out for me.
Answer: I suppose you could get specific with your online dating with a site likewww.singleparentmeet.com, have you tried that? Yet honestly, single parents are on virtually every dating site. And they’re at every children’s event. They’re probably in line at the grocery story, at a music event, at the beach, on the airplane.
It’s true that people without kids don’t have the life experience to instantly understand your challenges or priorities yet it’s not to say you won’t find a great partner who doesn’t have kids, right? Or are you specifically interested in blending families, which is totally cool!
I sense there’s some heaviness around being a single Dad… like you’ve been passed over or rejected by women who want their own kids? Or you’re carrying around baggage from the divorce that’s making the whole dating scene a drag? I love your humor about the jungle gym… yet it’s true if you said that to me I might laugh… but probably not give you my number 😉
However what if you were just yourself? What if you just asked, What would it take for me to meet my most compatible soul mate lover who adored that I’m a single Dad? Or What would it take for me to allow dating to be fun, easy and enlivening on the path to meeting a great life partner for me? Or specifically, Where’s the best place for me to meet the most compatible partner for me and the kids? How could I be ME at the playground, the kids sports games, a school play etc and attract the most aligned women to date?
What if just because you’re a single dad at a playground, you’re not creepy, but cool? friendly? a fabulous contribution to a wonderful woman’s/single mom’s life? My ex-husband met his current girlfriend at our son’s camp. I met my last boyfriend who was also a single parent on Match.com. Anything’s possible.
If you are in need of support to let go of some limiting beliefs, some luggage, some concerns that are making dating a drag vs a delicious journey, the cost of not cleaning this up or healing a wounded heart is that your point of view of dating DOES create your reality. You believe you’re a creep, you come across as a creep. You believe it’s hard, it will be hard. You are a vibrational being, your thoughts are energy and you’ll attract exactly the resonance you’re at… so the higher you vibe with confidence, openness, authenticity and positive expectations while being unattached and enjoying the process… the better your chance at celebrating the process of dating AND finding a great woman to share this next phase of your life with… yes?
If I can be of support in creating that shift, it would be my pleasure to invite you to the hundreds of men worldwide over the past 17 years who I’ve helped find hot, healthy intimate partnership. Simply apply for a complimentary strategy session at www.AllanaPratt.com/connect and tonight once you’ve put the kids to sleep, feel seen heard adored and supported by reading my complimentary report for men found at www.GetHerToSayYes.com.
Once you’ve fully processed the lessons meant to learn in your marriage, you’ll be amazed how fulfilled you are alone AND how easily you find a quality beautiful heartfelt woman to nourish you and your family… and she’ll be grateful to have found a man who’s done his work, who’s grown from his divorce and ready for a deep intimate profound joyous relationship that lasts. Huge love, Allana oxox
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