On The Rebound? Here Are 7 Things You Need To Know

Don’t go into a rebound relationship expecting your new partner to make up for the shortcomings and mistakes of the old partner.

 

I’ve heard people say a rebound relationship is something everyone should experience. I’ve also heard horror stories from folks who’ve experienced a rebound. I think it’s according to which end of the relationship you find yourself that determines whether it is a good or bad thing.

I certainly wouldn’t want to attach myself to someone who was rebounding from a long relationship and eventually find myself left behind once their need for a distraction came to an end.

Below are 7 things you should know about the rebound relationship

1. Defining a Rebound Relationship:

A rebound relationship is one that occurs shortly after the break-up of a significant love relationship. If you are in a relationship but have distanced yourself emotionally from your relationship partner, you may begin a rebound relationship before you even leave the relationship you are in. If you move quickly from a long-lasting relationship into another relationship then you are probably in a “rebound relationship.”

2. Rebound Relationships Serve a Purpose:

A rebound relationship is a distraction. It is a connection to another person that keeps us from having to experience the full extent of the emotional pain of a recent breakup. It is a misguided attempt to move on with our lives. Many people will jump back into the dating scene because they fear being alone. It’s a quick fix, one in which we can drown out our pain by reveling in the emotional intensity and passion of a new found love.

It can be a lot more fun than dealing with the misery of a recently broken heart.

3. Exchanging One Set Of Problems For Another:

Don’t go into a rebound relationship expecting your new partner to make up for the shortcomings and mistakes of the old partner. I like to call this the “knight in shining armor syndrome.” You may have just come out of a relationship that involved infidelity or abuse so, you turn around and expect your new partner to be able to make up for the pain you experienced in the old relationship.

More than likely, all you will do is exchange one set of problems for another. You need to figure out what you want in a relationship before jumping into a new relationship.

4. Too Fast, Too Soon:

If you have spent years in a bad relationship you might be itching to make up for lost time. It’s human nature to want a committed, fulfilling relationship and that desire can cause us to leap into a rebound relationship full speed ahead. We may have a sense of urgency and a desire to make sure we get it right the next time around. Those are great motivators to have but, make sure that sense of urgency is not causing you to rush in the wrong direction.

5. Masking Your Pain:

This is the biggest problem in a rebound relationship. Usually, someone ends up being used and hurt as a result. If you are in a relationship to distract yourself from the pain of a broken heart then you are using another person. More than likely when that person has served their purpose you will move on, leaving them to pick up the pieces. Be honest with your new relationship partner about your intentions.

6. Being Used by The Rebounder:

If you find yourself in a relationship with someone who has recently broken off a long-term relationship, be cautious.

Don’t allow your new relationship partner to set the pace. If you do, you will find yourself in the middle of a whirlwind. You don’t want to be left in the dust once he/she decides to move on.

If you are single, out there looking for love and longing for a committed relationship you probably won’t find what you desire from someone on the rebound. If you do become involved with such a person be sure to let the relationship develop slowly and to take care of yourself emotionally.

7. Emotional Pain Doesn’t Kill:

Experiencing and healing the pain of a broken relationship helps us become people who are more compassionate to other people’s pain. The emotional pain won’t kill you; it’s what you will do to avoid that pain that might kill you. Or, at least make you wish you had not moved so swiftly into a new relationship.

So, do yourself and any potential new relationship partners a favor and deal with the pain of your old relationship before moving onto another one.