Al was here for the weekend and although there were a few bumps along the way, it was pretty great all around. Tonight I miss him desperately, but I’m so happy that our relationship is going so well.
I am exhausted though. I left him at the airport at 9 a.m. this morning and raced to the elementary school to go with the 3rd graders on a field trip, then raced to work.
I was tired, sad, and happy all at the same time.
He arrived 3 hours late, thanks Southwest, on Friday. We had plans to take the little girls to the movie and they were counting on it, so even though we had to hurry we made it on time. I was already tired and stressed because it is hard to prep for a holiday weekend with guests, plus do your job, plus shave everything and pluck everything and make sure everything smells good for your lovah to visit.
Dating while mothering, working and hosting is damn hard work.
On Saturday, we drove down to get his son at his university several hours from here and brought him back for the weekend, so we had 4 of the 6 kids for the weekend. They did great together. On Sunday, we went to church, went back to the house and had our Easter dinner. I had even made a homemade carrot cake for the occasion. After lunch, I did laundry and got the kids ready for Stanley to come back on. His son got a ride back to school so we had date night on Sunday night. We’re sort of old so there was snoring involved, but only after lots of the good stuff.
On Monday we did errands and got the man a haircut. I hated all of his beautiful hair falling to the floor so they got me an envelope for Baby’s First Haircut and let me have some.
She’s gone, pull the plug.
We are kind of at a place now where, aside from the distance and the exes and the kids and the lack of money, dating is kind of fun. I am seeing some benefits now to having a lovah instead of a husband.
1. Sex is freakin awesome. We try hard to please each other and nobody has been trying to please me in the bedroom for 15 years, just sayin. So this is a refreshing change. I am unaccustomed to having someone try. Also, there are kisses……… there should always be kisses. Real ones.
2. My lovah is romantic. I started to say that lovahs in general are more romantic, but it may be just mine. He said so many beautiful things that I can’t even remember them all, but one thing he said, while we were intertwined was, “You are my love, my life and my singular devotion.” I know, hokey. But this man means it. I kid you not. Then he kills me with his earnest puppy dog eyes….
3. Lovah’s try to please you around the house. He planted a climbing plant along my ugly back fence, and glazed my windows and did various other things that have been driving me crazy at the nest. I didn’t have to nag or even to ask. I just sort of did the ole point and nod. Off he goes like a jack rabbit. I almost asked him to take his shirt off while he was digging but I was afraid it would make me look even greedier if that is possible..
Srsly, words are not even required and he is off with a shovel. I’m all like,
“Hot damn, why don’t you come over here after you finish with that!”
4. Lovah’s are helpful in the kitchen. Also, they are helpful with the dying of Easter Eggs. Stanley did them once. Year after year I buy, boil and oversee the dying of the eggs. Not this year, my very own Peter Cottontail did it with them. I used the time to work on my meal prep. Awesome. I am accustomed to doing everything alone.
I guess the biggest realization of the weekend (and Eureka I finally figured it out) but now, I have a partner. That is what he is, a partner. I didn’t have one before and didn’t recognize it. This is how it is supposed to be.
Even with the distance he is a partner. He helps me with so much that it makes me realize how much I did alone. I’m not talking about just physical things, but emotional too. He helps me problem solve and make decisions and I never had that before.
I had to get a divorce to find a partner.
It wasn’t my goal since I didn’t realize how awesome they are, but it sure is a nice perk.
I sure do miss him and his shovel though.