Why bother with Valentine’s Day? Everyone I know says, “It’s just a Hallmark holiday.”I have said it myself, but but deep down inside I love to get those cute cards and beautiful flowers. It stinks when you see all the girls in the office having flowers delivered and there you sit, saying it’s ok we don’t celebrate it.
Once my former husband didn’t send me anything on Valentine’s. He never sent me anything before but, for some reason, this time it really got to me. He then sent me the cutest email and explained that he didn’t send flowers because he wanted to be different, not sending something just because he was supposed to. My heart sank as I could feel my guilt melting it away. I felt awful that I thought badly about him, and it got me to thinking: shouldn’t we be celebrating our love every single day?
I dated a guy years ago who wrote me notes on my mirror with my eye liner. Notes like, “I love you” and “Have a great day.” He would sneak into my work and deliver me breakfast and write on the container, “Simply because I love you.” Those are the meaningful expressions of love that we should do every day.
Since my divorce I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day. I might send a little something to my grandbabies just because, well I’m a grandma, but why should I feel obligated even to do that?
Here are my 5 reasons why it’s ok to dislike and disregard Valentine’s Day.
1. Good luck getting into a restaurant. You don’t need reservations on any other day. Order take out.
2. You will save a ton of money if you buy your love flowers on any other day. Shipping alone will set you back at least $20 and on a good day you can get a dozen roses for $9.99 at your local store.
3. Candy? When I made a New Year’s resolution to lose weight and now you are going to buy me a box of candy? I don’t think so.
4. NASCAR season starts that weekend and I don’t want to miss it.
5. I don’t want to see all that loving and kissing. Why? Because I am alone!
To me love should be shown every day, not just one day a year. It doesn’t have to be in gifts, but in actions. I have spent the last two years alone. My youngest daughter was my date last year and it was a total surprise. She cooked me dinner and gave me a diamond infinity bracelet. With the men of my past, I can’t recall a better Valentine’s Day then that.
My plan for Valentine’s Day this year? I am going to make lobster tails in my steamer and rent a movie, staying in my jammies and being loved on by my deaf rescue boxer. You know what? I am perfectly fine with that.