Dating is difficult. I’m talking about real “I’m looking for THE one” kind of dating. This should not be confused with “please leave before I wake up” kind of dating. If you are truly looking for Ms. Right, consider these 10 things that could potentially be turning women off.
1. Profile name: SmackDaddy, ImaPlaya, FunAllNight, and anything that ends in “69.” If we were solely looking for sex, there are specific websites for that. Even if you say you’re a gentleman who likes kittens and cuddling, your profile name says otherwise.
2. Bathroom Mirror selfie: I might look at your abs for a second but I’ll fixate on your pile of laundry and dirty tub in the background. Want to turn me on? Clean your bathroom. Likewise, take a minute to look at what is in the background of your pics. That photo of you and your girl on your night stand? You might want to put that away.
3. Picture of your boat/car/bike/pet/favorite sunset: I guess these are nice photos if you are looking through a magazine, but we are interested in who YOU are. Do you really want a woman who is only interested in your material things? You should have at least one full-length photo and another showing a toothy smile. Sadly, we have enough experience to question the close-lipped smiles. And those group photos? We shouldn’t have to guess which one is you.
4. Generic Bio: Let me guess… You work hard and play hard. You can get dressed up or be comfortable in jeans. You love music and you hate drama. Your kids mean the world to you. Sound familiar? It sounds familiar to us, too. Get creative! Ask a friend to help you. Ask your kids to describe you. A little effort goes a long way.
5. No bio, no pic: That means you’re married or in a committed relationship. Bye.
6. Impersonal personal messages: “Hey sexy. Wanna chat?” No, I don’t. I can bet that you’ve sent this to every other female that is currently online right now. Read my profile, and send a personalized message based on something that interested you. It’s probably the most important reading comprehension quiz you’ll ever take. (See #9)
7. Grammar and spelling: Your profile should not look like my teenaged daughter’s text messages. I’m sure you’re educated, and that is a turn on for many women. You won’t be graded on your writing. But consider that u could b missing out on a gr8 woman bc u rite like dis.
8. Conflicting data: One picture shows you running some sort of muddy, fire leaping marathon with bulging muscles. The next one is you with “a few extra pounds” (Fifty is not a few, by the way!). Do you still have the ZZTop beard? Which one is most recent? These are not necessarily deal breaker photos, but represent yourself honestly. No one likes surprises on a first date. (See #3 regarding toothless smile.)
9. Seeing your profile on every dating site: Wait, if I see your profile on various sites, then I’m on every site too, right? No. I can Google your screen name and the magic of searching gives me a list of websites that have your screen name registered to it. How can you be on a fetish site and a religious site at the same time? Decide what you are looking for, and then get serious about dating.
10. Relationship baggage: We all have some, but it’s important to not let old baggage affect new relationships. If the baggage keeps reappearing, learn from it, and keep it in the past. No one wants to read about your bitterness, nor do they want to pay the price for your past hurts.
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Ah, you nailed it right on the head with just how bad these online dating profiles men have.
My husband walked out of our marriage 18 months ago, and my self esteme was shattered without a doubt. So, I thought since I hadn’t dated since 1979 when I met my husband, people told me online dating was “new age” and I should try it.
Well, 5 dating sites later, JDate since I am Jewish, Match.com. Ourtime since I am over 50 yrs, OK Cupid which was free, and finally Zoosk, all were nightmares. I posted my profile with a photo of me, leaning against a tree dressed well, and the responses I got from most of the men my age were “Nice Body” or “do you like Sex?” Wow, nowhere in my profile did I ever say I wanted sex, but just looking for a friend or companion. As for my body, yes I keep my figure up, and wear a size four, and am petite too. My profile was well written, with my stating I had served in the U.S. Navy for 10 years, both active duty and reserves. I jst found out I was adopted, French, and find out about my heritage, I like to cook, garden, listen to rock music, dance, and appreciate the fine arts, museums, and so much more. I thought this was a way for me to weed out those I wasn’t even compatible with, but these men simply were too dumb to even read my profile and see we were not a fit at all,
The men my age look beat up, old, out of shape, yet they want someone like me as a toy or trophy. And yes, their profile names just showed their narcissism to a tee, with profile names like “Major Ogasim” and others such names. Really??? What does this say about the men of this generation? Some post neither no photos or of themselves with a Corvette, or at a bar with a beer in one hand and girls around them, and some guys have kind-of lewd photos too. Some of these men on these dating sites look old enough to be my grandfather, around 75+, with long beards, pot/gut bellies, and not attactive at all.
When my husband left me, and finding out the “what and who” I married for over 3 decades, I ask myself, “do I really want a guy with baggage issues-drinking incessantly or alcoholic, drug addict, financial issues, relationship issues or lack of any commitment, family issues, and sexual issues and fantases they want to have.
No, I think I’ll pass and just enjoy my life without a man, and treasure my girl friends even more.