Do you feel like you’re always apologizing for things you do in YOUR life? Or are you always feeling guilty for making choices that may cause hurt to other people, and feel you should apologize? Have you asked yourself why? No? Well, maybe it’s time to do so!
Here is a list of 13 things to stop apologizing for:
1. Don’t apologize for putting yourself first.
It’s not selfish to put yourself first, and that sometimes includes with your children. Yes, they are your main priority, but you also need time out for yourself, to recharge your batteries, and have a little fun, maybe even some adult fun.
2. Don’t apologize for being open and honest.
Honesty is always the best policy. Yes, some people may unintentionally get hurt by your honesty, but we also need to be open about out feeling and wants in life. If we are open and honest in a relationship, we both get what we want from the relationship, making it stronger. You need to be true to yourself and get what you want out of this roller coaster we call life.
3. Don’t apologize for being happy.
Some people hate to see others happy and even try to make you feel bad for being happy and celebrating for doing so. Life has its challenging and painful moments, so celebrate whenever you feel like it, even when there is nothing to celebrate. Celebrations and fun don’t have to be tied to special events or achievements in life. Celebrate life.
4. Don’t apologize when you stop loving someone.
If someone hurts you, you have every right to walk away from a relationship. You cannot be expected to continue loving someone, especially if they do you wrong.
5. Don’t apologize for being guarded.
We’ve all been through tough relationships, and this will always leave you feeling a little guarded when we enter into new ones. Although you don’t want this to push the prospective new partner away, you shouldn’t have to apologize for being guarded, and if the new partner is of any value, they will understand and respect your reasons. You are only protecting yourself and your heart.
6. Don’t apologize for cutting people out of your life.
If relationships become toxic, whether friendships, family or intimate relationships, you shouldn’t be afraid to cut those people out of your life, no matter how long you have known them or how close you once were. These people will only continue to bring negativity to your life.
7. Don’t apologize for realizing what matters.
Things we wanted five years ago or even five weeks ago may not be what we want now. As we grow, we learn more from life experiences, thus changing along the way. It is your right to grow as a person and change the direction in which your life is going. Don’t be afraid of changing direction.
8. Don’t apologize for ignoring people who contact you when it’s convenient for them.
We all have that one person who only contacts us when they need something. They call or message you when you have not heard from them for months. When you’re busy and don’t get the chance to call or message them straight back, or you just don’t want to message straight back, they get annoyed. Don’t feel guilty or apologize for this. Explain your reasons for not responding promptly, but you should not feel the need to apologize.
9. Don’t apologize for trusting the wrong people.
I believe everyone comes into our life for a reason, may it be for a moment or for a lifetime, but each person teaches us a lesson. Even the most painful experiences teach us valuable lessons, so don’t apologize for trusting the people who hurt us. Take the positive out of the experience and learn from it. It can be the most painful experiences that provide the most valuable lessons.
10. Don’t apologize for calling someone out on their bullshit.
Every relationship needs boundaries. Unfortunately, adults, just like children, try to push those boundaries. Don’t be afraid to call the person out; it’s your right to set boundaries in every relationship you have. It’s self-preservation, and doing so helps prevent you getting hurt.
11. Don’t apologize for telling people what they need to hear.
As friends, lovers, and parents, we sometimes need to tell those we love things they do not want to hear, but you know it will help them in the long run. Just make sure the delivery of such information is tactful; explain you have their best interests at heart. They will thank you in the long run, even if they don’t at that moment in time.
12. Don’t apologize for having an opinion.
We are all individuals and have different opinions and beliefs. Just because we don’t agree with someone, doesn’t mean they are right and we should apologize. Hold on to your opinions and beliefs; don’t let anyone make you feel you are wrong for having those.
13. Don’t apologize for being YOU.
Every person is different. You should never feel like you should apologize for not conforming. Be a little crazy, be a little wild. Whatever it is that makes you happy, do it — do it with pride and do it with a smile on your face. The most important person to always be honest with is yourself. If you get that right, you will live a fulfilling life and never have to apologize to yourself.
You are the leading lady in your own life. You should never be afraid to be yourself. Always be honest and enjoy YOUR life.