No one marries with the expectation of divorce. Very few women choose men they believe will behave in a manner that will force a divorce.
Some of the men below seem perfect until you marry them. Some are bad news and women make excuses for marrying them.
However you ended up with one of these men, you can bet that, regardless of how hard you try to save your marriage, divorce is in your future.
4 Types of Men That Make Bad, Really Bad Husbands
1. The Addict:
People who are physically and emotionally dependent on substances and habits endanger those close to them. Addictions invite financial problems, mood swings, harmful influences, and, in some cases, legal repercussions into a home.
The substances that numb an addict’s pain hinder his judgment. Just as you wouldn’t want to ride in a car driven by someone under the influence of drugs or alcohol, neither do you want to partner with someone driven by an unhealthy habit or substance. Even “acceptable” addictions, like exercise, cause repeated heartache when they take precedence over marriage and family.
Addictions generate shame and deceit. Secrets build walls in a marriage. If you want to be lonely in marriage, marry an addict.
2. The Mama’s Boy
There’s nothing wrong with being a momma’s boy, most guys are, but there are limits. If your guy would rather talk about his problems to his mom than you, it’s a red flag. If her opinion is more important to him than yours, he’s not the ideal husband for you.
I have two sons. I’ve always told them, Mama is important, wife is more important. It isn’t easy as a Mama to let go but all Mama’s boys have a Mama who can’t let go and will do everything in her power to remain his number one. And he will do everything needed to keep her feeling like she is number one.
How can a Mama’s boy have an emotional connection with another woman if he can’t cut the apron strings?
3. The Narcissist
Narcissus was an ancient Greek mythological figure who was so beautiful that he fell in love with himself – but because he couldn’t leave his own reflection in the water, he eventually drowned. A person who is a narcissist is so convinced of their own greatness that they don’t see their weaknesses. Being married to a narcissist is a very one-sided relationship. They’re always trying to flaunt their own greatness – always at the expense of you.
The problem with the narcissist? He is charming and knows how to play the game. He knows how to reel you in but, once he has you, the game changes and you find yourself wondering, “who the hell did I marry.” When a woman marries a narcissist she spends years trying to get back that Prince Charming, that perfect man she married. The sad truth is, that perfect man wasn’t real and neither is her marriage. It may take her a couple of decades to figure it out but, she will eventually throw in the towel and sprint for the nearest divorce attorney.
4. The Control Freak
Everybody likes to have things their own way. Unfortunately, because men are socialized to express hostility and anger when they don’t get what they want, a man who is a control freak can often become intimidating and even abusive (physically or mentally).
The control freak believes that if you would only change there would be no problems. The control freak does what is needed to advance their own agenda and, as stated above, it’s the control freak you need to worry about beating you, verbally demeaning you or, playing tricks with your head so he can get his way.
If you are married to his guy, get out now!
If you are married to any of the guys above, you’re going to find yourself fighting a lot of battles you can’t win.
So very true. And if you luck out and get a combination some or all of the above, you’re going to have a lot of fun. ;(
Yes, I married a narcissist and never knew it nor even the word, Only thought I married someone goal orrientated and a bit arrogant too. but when he walked out of our then 36 year marriage 3 years ago, the analysis I did and “aha” moments became very clear to me.
Now, I am much happier without him in my life. The only thing that I am working on now is Regret, because it will eat you up alive. My husband was the wrong man for me and I stayed eons too long with him.
It takes two people to create a child, therfore, profiding for children’s care and maintenance should be a shared responsibility.
Requiring a non-custodial paent to transfer enough of their resources to a custodial parent in order to provide a government mandated LIFESTYLE for the chidlren, and by inference, the custodial parent means that the non-custodial parent is actually paying a mixture of child support and disguised alimony.
I have requested to use a child support trust in the form of a shared checking account that both parents contribut to like this one (http://www.mediate.com/articles/if_they_can_do_parenting_plans.cfm), but my family court judge refused. Her Honor’s response was that “Your [ex-]wire” (NOT our chidren) “deserves that money” referrint to ‘child support’.
It is my belief that Her Honor’s reputation for gender bias is rooted in the financial kickbacks that states get for increasing the gross amount of child support collected under the Child Support Performance and Incentive Act.
These kickbacks reward states for both placing children with the lower earning parent and restricting the non-custodial parent’s access to their children, which increases the gross amount of ‘child support’ collected, thereby enriching the state.