There are silver linings to divorce. As a matter of fact, for some, divorce is the icing on the cake of their lives.
In many cases, there are a range of reasons why divorce is good and many times when divorce is best.
And even if divorce left you heartbroken, there is still reason to be thankful, regardless of whether it was what you wanted or not.
And that’s why I’ve put together a list of reasons to not only celebrate divorce but, New Year’s Eve also. I hope to see you out and about!
7 Reasons to Celebrate Your Divorce AND New Year’s Eve!
1. Marriage may give you a sense of security but divorce gives you a new lease on life.
Staying in a bad marriage can provide security because at least you know how your life will go. But getting a divorce gives you hope ― the hope to be who you want to be, the hope to be happy and the hope to find someone else to love.
2. Being a single parent is better than modeling an unhealthy relationship.
If you’re a parent with young kids, getting a divorce is better than staying in a bad marriage because these are formative years for them. They will likely seek out and emulate the types of relationships they see modeled. I want my relationships to be happy, healthy and mutually respectful so that my children never settle for anything else in their own lives.
3. Divorce clears the way for you to meet the right partner.
Divorce is painful but it’s kind of like pulling off a Band-Aid: The anticipation is horrible but once it’s over, it’s pure relief. Bonus: It allows you the freedom to meet the person you were meant to be with!
4. You get to focus on you for once.
After divorce, you find yourself again and fall in love with the wonderful attributes that make you, you. As a mother especially, you can parent with just your own mama instincts and all your love and energy can flow into your little one(s). You find genuine peace and happiness and an appreciation for life that may have been sucked out of you during your bad marriage.
5. A happier parent is a better parent.
Learning to let go and step into the unknown may be the single most important thing you can do for your own sanity and the sanity of those around you. Divorce proves that you have the courage to live a life of happiness. And if you’re happier, you’ll be a far more effective parent.
6. You can devote your energy to other important areas of your life.
If you have done all the work of trying to make the marriage better and nothing is changing, finding the courage to leave and move forward pays off in the long run. The payoff? You stop putting all your energy into a relationship that no longer works and put more energy into yourself and your kids.
7. You lose a spouse but you gain happiness.
Divorce brought me happiness. Life is far too short to spend it immersed in an unhealthy relationship.