Hit the Reset Button

 And I’m not alone.

As soon as the topic presented, over half of us were shaking our heads “no”.  And I was one of them.    Things are still too fresh.  I’m still technically married.  I’m still hurting from this relationship’s end.

I’ve already seen the damage caused by getting into a rebound relationship too soon.  I’m part of the fallout of Husband #2’s desire to prove himself worthy of love after his second marriage ended 12 years ago.  He hit the reset button quickly to diminish his own pain and loneliness.

But is hitting the reset button a bad thing?  In some instances, I think it would be helpful.  There were many times I wanted a reset button to set the clock back to a place where we could start again and choose a different path.  It would be nice to go back to a crucial part of an interaction and choose the path to empathy rather than the current path of an argument.

I think Dr. Phil said it perfectly in his book, Life Code:

Be willing to stand up and hit the Reset Button and say we can’t change the past.  Let’s just enjoy ourselves and be in the present moment.  No defensiveness or justifications.

We can each admit that we deeply hurt each other and we’re both very sorry for that.  Let’s agree to apologize and not use it against each other.  It doesn’t matter who said what to whom back when.  Not even God can change the past.  All we can do is make the conscious and determined choice not to let the past poison this moment together. Sometimes we have to create the things we want out of life.  I’m willing to create and hit the reset button.