I can’t fix you

I can’t fix you, I don’t want to fix you, I want you to be yourself.  The only thing I can fix is how I react to you and your issues.

You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him to discover it in himself.

~Galileo

In my journey of self-discovery, I’ve been concentrating a lot on ME and what I did to contribute to our marital woes.  One big thing is that I’m a fixer. I fix things, people, and situations.  I can’t bear to see someone struggling.  I want to help the underdog.  I don’t like to see my loved ones hurting.

But I’ve come to realize that I shouldn’t step in to fix unless specifically asked.  I can offer help, I can mention a solution, but I can’t take the reigns and lead the show.

And that is OK.  I’ve been the responsible one for so long, I want someone else to lead.  I want someone else to make the decisions.  I want someone else to be the Alpha Male in my life.  I’m tired to being the strong one.

Today I’m practicing my weakness.