I gave up a career I loved and had worked so hard to achieve to help my husband build his. He wanted children so I went through six In Vitro Fertilization procedures to have 2 children.
After a 24 year verbally abusive marriage my husband left me and our family for someone half his age. That was the moment I began my journey into the upside down rabbit hole of the crazy legal world of a high-conflict divorce. Five years later I am still waiting for our community funds to be divided.
When you are on the receiving end of a high conflict divorce you find yourself constantly playing catchup.
Being caught by surprise, I prepared as well as I could. I knew which attorney he would contact and when I called their office I knew by their response that he had already hired them. Who knows how long ago he had contacted them.
So I hired a respected attorney who had great reviews and was around the same age as my hopefully soon to be ex’s attorney knowing that they had battled on the divorce field many times before.
In the end, my needs and my children’s needs were dismissed as unimportant. My almost ex didn’t want me to have anything at all and fought every attempt at resolving our divorce.
In the last and most important meeting, my own forensic accountant said something that made me feel horrible and I agreed to much less than I should have.
I felt forced to sign the settlement agreement.
My last and greatest insult was as the attorneys and judge left our settlement conference they stopped on their way out, looked at me, laughed and said: “You’ll be fine, you will get married again!” I have never felt so violated and humiliated in my life. To make matters worse I had paid two of these men and my ex doesn’t appreciate anything I sacrificed.