Divorce is the ultimate full life clean slate! Everything about our former life is changing: our most important relationships, our relationship status, our financial picture, and often where and how we live. Since so much is changing inside and all around us, our entire self should reflect the forward movement surrounding us!
Sometimes it takes a bit of positive thinking, despite all the negative around us that is so easy to focus on. Things at present may seem like a hot mess with a side of depression and hopelessness, but it’s important to have some faith that they won’t always remain this way! There’s nothing to be lost by thinking positive, aiming for the best outcome, and taking care of and treating ourselves!
Here are a few ways to invest in ou selves and begin a divorce makeover:
1.Time to freshen up! Many of us, especially if we’ve been beaten down by a depressing situation, neglect ourselves and let ourselves go. Start this new chapter of your life with an updated hairstyle and attention to skin, nails, and other areas that might have slipped as a priority.
2. Nurture from the inside out. We are better able to look and feel our best, have the energy to take on everything divorce brings our way, and be at the top of our game when we’re healthy. Perhaps it’s time to revamp our diet and make sure we’re consuming the best nutrition?
What about vitamins or more fruits and veggies and less processed foods? Now would be a good time to swap caffeine and sugar for water and healthier choices or begin an exercise regimen.
3. Rest renovation. Divorce can take a lot out of us, leaving us more in need of sleep and rest than ever before. Although worry and stress can make it difficult to sleep, at times, we shouldn’t hinder opportunities for rest when they become available.
We should try to make our sleeping environments as conducive to rest as possible and eliminate distractions from electronics and others.
4. Ward off the blues with a new wardrobe. Clothing has a way to help boost our confidence and make us feel our best. Consider a closet update to eliminate pieces of the past that may hold back forward movement. An entire new wardrobe can be very expensive, so adding on even one fresh piece at-a-time can create fashion magic!
5. Re-feather the nest. It’s hard to feel removed from the ghosts of our former marriage while surrounded by reminders from the same furniture and decorations that were part of that former life. De-clutter the sentimental nonsense that keeps calling back to the past and memories that are either unpleasant or counter-productive to growth.
If a hefty re-model or decorator isn’t in the budget, consider the transformative powers of paint, slipcovers, or thrift shop finds.
6. Don’t neglect emotional well-being! Establishing balance, clarity, closure, and peace are just as important as attending to our physical and material needs. Although attention to exterior elements can help us feel rejuvenated, we need to be sure they’re not just a band-aid for the interior transformations we endure. Take care to find a sounding board and outlet for the emotions of divorce, whether a good friend, a counselor, or a cathartic hobby.
7. A financial check-up. Divorce is financially devastating, so be sure to review the changes that have taken place and make sure that the right plan is in place to ensure financial security. It might be time to practice new spending and saving habits and develop new goals that align with a new life direction.
Women have a tendency to ignore our own needs and self-impose guilt when we take care of ourselves before others. Sometimes we go so far as to call self-care “spoiling” ourselves, when we would consider the same treatment of our loved ones to be fulfilling basic needs.
We can’t be strong for others, or for us, if we don’t maintain our own care and occasionally splurge to establish to ourselves that we are important! We do it for other people, so why not ourselves?
If ever there is a time to make a hefty deposit into our own account, rather than everyone else’s, divorce is that moment! Take the time to give yourself a head-to-toe assessment of needs- and wants- and commit to doing whatever is necessary to put your best foot forward!