The single mom balancing act?
For some, the view from the high wire isn’t too bad. You have a secure job, a support system in place that continues after divorce, and while your emotions may be raw and your kids may seem needy – you’re finding your way.
But for some of us?
Oh God. It just sucks.
We no sooner solve one gnarly problem at work then three pop up when we’re dealing with… drumroll please… one kiddo’s wisdom teeth that need to come out, and the other one’s fight with a best friend, leaving him listless and moody.
The money for the teeth extraction? Where in the hell is that coming from?
And how does a solo or single mom know what it’s like for a young boy going through his first experience of a broken heart?
One minute you’re Doctor Mom, M.D., the next – Doctor Mom, PhD, and after that, Crazed Mom who wishes she was a C.F.P. – a Certified Financial Planner, with a printing press in the basement to cover the hundreds and thousands of unexpected expenses.
PA It’s not too bad.
But what happens when you lose your job during your divorce or shortly after? What happens when your ex doesn’t show up to get the kids when he’s supposed to, or you’re back in court a year after divorce, or one of your children is struggling with adjusting and all of this impacting your ability to earn a living?
There are times when the single mom biz breaks down.
We don’t all have friends and family to help. We don’t all have an ex who fulfills his part of the bargain. We don’t all have children who are healthy. We aren’t all healthy. And we may work in an industry that has little to no security, or we may be forced to change careers altogether, as circumstances no longer permit us to work as we did in a more traditional family.
The view from the high wire, with kids depending on you, bills piling up, legal debt, and your own emotional roller coaster?