How is that for a title?
I have an incredible disappearing Stanley. He doesn’t check in with the kids at all when he is off. But that is okay because it limits the communication I have to have with him. I do kind of feel bad for the kids though when they go 4 days without talking to their father.
I mean, is that okay?
My parents weren’t divorced but my dad traveled for business every week. I would go 4 days without talking to him often. And clearly I have father issues.
Look how I turned out?
Just kidding. Mostly I just hurl purse bricks at dumb people.
But Al’s ex-wife is a level of suck previously uncharted.
|apologies to Kathy Bates|
She calls and calls and calls. She nags and nags and nags. I keep thinking that he must be encouraging her in some way, there has to be secondary gain in it for her, but I have seen him ignore her and I’ve seen him respond in various ways, including, “We’re divorced! I hate you! Don’t call me!” and the bitch still calls and calls and calls.
I have tried to help him with clinical advice on setting limits with difficult people. But it doesn’t seem to be working because she still calls and calls and calls. It is like her day isn’t complete unless she checks off the box on her ‘to do list’ which says: Make ex husband miserable. When he ignored her over the weekend she got him to respond to her with a ‘fake kid crisis’ and managed to keep him on the phone long enough to tell him that she tells the kids that they can’t live with him because he ‘can’t be inconvenienced’ with them.
Yes. This chick violates every single rule for parenting children after divorce.
She regularly sacrifices their mental health to hurt him.
SHE IS A BAD MOTHER.
She needs to go to BAD MOTHER JAIL.
Now, he is a wonderful father. He communicates with his kids several times a day, they are older, college and high school age, and they know that she is clinically batshit and that they can move in with him at any time. But still, kids don’t need to hear that from a parent about their other parent.
Besides, I am working so hard to facilitate a good adjustment for my kids
that her behavior with her kids makes me want to hack her with Kathy Bates’ ax.
Yesterday, when he was having a ‘my ex is batshit and a bad mother’ meltdown, I suggested that since nothing else works, reasoning with her, taking her calls, ignoring her, etc., that he should communicate like Stanley does with me because I don’t like to talk to him and avoid it at all cost. I am the opposite of that bitch, I never call him. So see? It works.
Stanley uses only 5 letters of the alphabet in his communication with me:
O K Y U P
In our communication, he either says, “ok” or “yup”.
oh and occasionally he adds a D and an N for
Now, Al will have to add at least 2 more letters, like F and O for
But it is a start and since I am getting to the end of my patience with her it is worth a try.
He is waaay to nice. I could get rid of her in about 5 minutes, but I’m mean.
I’m also not mentally ill.
I mean, if someone said to me, “I hate you, don’t call me!”
I would get the hint.
What to do, what to do?