Yesterday, I thought all day about the movie Enchanted. I’ve seen it with the girls about 100x. This is why: Since Al left last week he has been on me like glue. Even from 915 miles away.
He usually is. I would say we have easily 100 texts a day and talk at least once. We would talk more except for my terrible phone aversion. Wednesday morning he called me at 7:23 a.m. I hit decline because I was trying to get Merlot to school. He said he just wanted to hear my voice. For real. Who wants to hear someone else’s voice at 7:23 a.m? He remembers my errands that I casually mentioned a week ago, and reminds me of my appointments. Sometimes if I’m doing something that I don’t want to talk about, like buying lipstick which is a total addiction of mine that I now do mostly at Target, I start to think he is minding my business and I get slightly irritated.
But having someone interested in what I’m doing 24 hours a day is new for me. Stanley never knew what I was doing really, he had no interest in my day and we didn’t communicate often during the day.
So, I was accustomed to being mostly ignored.
It has been quite an adjustment to have someone want to know what I’m doing just because he is interested in what I’m doing. Yesterday, he was sending little pictures of himself sitting at his desk making kissy faces.
He reminded me I had to go to the courthouse and said he wished we were going to say some vows.
sigh.
Yesterday via text I got:
- I need some intertwined time.
- hours and hours of pure heaven
- just the kissing alone could take days
- Sleep well and dream of me. You are always in my dreams.
- Pure heaven, every minute I’m with you.
- I just want to get there, stay there, marry you and love happily ever after.
- I’m trying to keep you focused on my material assets.
- Just thinking of you all the time.
- I want to hold you and kiss you and bring you a glass of wine.
Now there were tons of other texts. He has a cold so there was even talk about snot. We talked about Chris Christie’s mega problem, money, kids, that was just the sweet ones and yes I did read them back and type verbatim. But I realized as he sent me another mooney love picture from his desk that this is what a man in love acts like.
Eureka!
Not all men and not all women are this attentive when they are in love. Even, I’m not.
But this one is.
I’m much more attentive than Stanley was but not as attentive as Al is, except that I respond to him all day and all that romance is kind of rubbing off on me.
But it did make me realize that when you are in love you are interested in your lover’s day. You do remember things that are happening with them that are important. You do want to know what they are doing even if it is comparing lipstick shades (yesterday was a total fail. Too pink.)
Being ‘mostly ignored’ which was how it was with me before, is not normal.
Of course, this is probably not normal either. But I don’t care.
If this doesn’t work out my next lovah is going to have some big shoes to fill.
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