I am amazed at the number of responses I get like this when I tell people about bird nesting.
Oh my God, I could just never do that. I could never bear that sort of inconvenience.
Really? Not even for your children? They didn’t ask to be born into a marriage that had problems. I wish to God I didn’t have to do this either. It is hard to see Stanley so often. The things that he does that irritated me before the divorce have only gotten more irritating and sometimes the very thought of him makes me want to dig in my purse.
Also, I have been HIGHLY irritated because I have read some blogs online where women are asking asinine questions like,
why can’t my boyfriend put me over his children?
To that I say,
Because he can’t bitch!
I hope to God that he never ever puts your skanky ass over his children.
I have recently seen blog posts where there are declarations from women who are angry because the boyfriend has been out of town and came back into town on his kid day and there was hell to pay because he didn’t ditch the kids to spend the evening with them.
For real. They are his children. They didn’t ask to be born into his chaos and your drama.
Part of being an adult is realizing your responsibility to people who are dependent on you. I don’t know how people sleep at night that don’t feel that responsibility to their children.
I try to put myself into their heads and I have determined that they are thinking that they will put the kids first tomorrow. Or they will be a better parent tomorrow.
Like when you are on a diet and you are going to do better tomorrow.
I for one, am going to start exercising tomorrow.
But I just can’t see how you can do that with kids and get away with it. Because kids will leave when they grow up and they don’t have to come back and see you, or be close to you or take care of you when you are old. There is such irreparable damage that can be done. I see it among my clients everyday.
I would never respect a man that didn’t put his kids first.
There are many reasons not to bird nest.
At the top is the inability to communicate with your ex spouse without conflict.
But ‘because it would inconvenience me’ is not a good one.
Parenting is serious and your kids always come before you.
You can put yourself first, but start picking out your nursing home now.
Because taking care of your old ass is going to be highly inconvenient.
Just my 2 cents.