What if you woke up tomorrow with the sun blazing in your eyes, but you find out as you get acclimated to the day that there is no television, no internet and no person or animal around. Sort of like an “I Am Legend” moment. What would be the feeling? Could you cope? Would you want to stab yourself? How about drinking every bottle of whiskey you could find?
The first step would be to search every corner of your surrounding area to find a living thing. As human beings we have to connect to something, somebody or both. We desire to connect or we feel vunerable.
This is why becoming intimate with a partner is so important.
Thomas Edison said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work”. If Thomas Edison thought he failed, then we would still be using kerosene lamps and burning our houses down. How did he come up with an idea and follow through with it? Edison was very much connected or intuned to his sight, hearing and touch senses. He envisioned connecting different relevent ideas as he listened to his inner voice telling him where to connect a wire as his inner touch sensory formulated the progress. Nothing could waver the feeling his senses provided.
In every relationship that we have, we encounter a feeling or a sense. We meet someone and immediately our sight gives us a feeling that tells us we want to hear that person’s voice or know what’s on their mind. After we hear, we want to touch without ever thinking about it; and hopefully, they smell good. Some of us want to taste. So what happens when we have relationships that fail?
Do we give our relationships 10,001 ways or chances to work? It may be impossible to push forward endlessly as Edison did to make a relationship work. Why? Edison was endlessly conected to his senses. There was nothing to stop that. He could visualize, hear himself and touch his progress. Moreover, he didn’t need all of his senses to accompish his goal. He only needed three.
In our relationships, we use practically every sense possible not realizing we are trying to connect our senses indirectly by the actions of the other person. When we feel the connection to the other person, then we attempt to create a bond or try becoming intimate. As long as those senses are satisfied, we continue to feel something special for that person. Where does the breakdown occur?
If you meet someone and all of your senses concur, you have found blissfulness. Although you may have satisfied all of your senses, it does not mean the other person has satisfied theirs. They may not know that a sense is missing or that they desire more sensory interaction. It’s apart of nature so we don’t think about it. They can’t explain what’s missing.
When you have been in a relationship for a while and begin to feel like there aren’t any of the same feelings anymore. You may realize that only 3 out of 5 of your original senses are missing and they are in direct corelations with the breakdown in your relationship. Maybe your partner has a similar breakdown. When was the last time you kissed? When was the last time you were intimate? When people feel like they aren’t being heard other senses breakdown. No more touching. No more hearing. If a woman does not hear that she is pretty, she may turn off the touch and hear senses. If a man feels like he is not appreciated, then he may lose connection to sight, touch, and hearing. Arguments can lead to the breakdown of senses. Is it reversable is the question.
Maybe after 10,000 ways that won’t work, we find out how to re-spark the lost feelings of our senses. Maybe we could rekindle lost love or friendships by tapping into the other persons sensory on call. Einstein and any person feeling strong about a particular goal or accomplishment never lets others interfere with the feelings they receive from their senses.
A nice warm sunny day is always ruined by rain if sun is what you desire. May be there’s an app for it. My be we don’t know our roles. Maybe we allow interferences to kill our goals in the relationships or friendships. If we could only go back to where it all started, then, we could feel the innocent touch of sight, or the warm feeling of taste. Will it ever make more sense than dollars.