“I would like a bank loan for $100,000”
-“Ok, and what would you be using this for?”
“I want to start an online dating site of sorts.”
-“Um, there are hundreds of those around. I need a hook. I need to know we will make our money back, plus interest”
“Oh yeah, I got you covered. This isn’t just a dating site. It is a hookup site for married people that want to stray.”
-“Really! Well I’ve never heard that before. Marriages are pretty screwed up in this country so I can absolutely see a return on investment in our future. Are you sure you don’t want more money?”
“I’m good. This is government backed, like literally”
And so said the owners of Ashley Madison, to the tune of millions and millions of dollars. The site has made a mint from luring married people to their website for the pure purpose of cheating. Over the last several days since the hack became public, I have read all sorts of articles and excuses on the matter and I can easily say, there is something wrong with those who suggest that Ashley Madison was simply filling a need.
There are a lot of needs people have, but that does not make them healthy to fill. McDonalds fills needs and yet any good doctor would tell you that McDonald’s products ruin consumers hearts and digestive systems.
There are creepers that have their own version of “needs” in the form of young children and we call that illegal. And of course, drug dealers fill needs every day. Shall I get a loan and open a corner market crack houses?
Since the Ashley Madison hack exploded, I have found several articles and comments that suggest that Ashley Madison is not the enemy here. I came upon one article suggesting the focus should be on the relationship and, more specifically, the person who registered an account and not on the service the site offers. Fair enough. I have two thoughts for this:
Thought 1: Cheating is cheating regardless of whether someone ‘just’ signed up for the account or they had an intimate relationship with someone they met on the site. When you’re in a relationship you are committed to the person and the intent of a partnership on a physical, emotional and psychological level. Signing up for Ashley Madison is a violation of the emotional and psychological intimacy. Period. End. Of. Discussion. If there was physical intimacy, it was a violation of the physical. Any questions?
Thought 2: If your partner, husband or wife had an Ashley Madison account, leave. You teach people how to treat you by respecting yourself. If you have self-respect you will find it impossible to stay with a spouse who had an account on Ashley Madison.
People will rationalize their loneliness and their “needs” and yet they could not transfer the energy utilized to surf this site into energy investigating the loneliness and the problems in their marriage? Or simply communicating with their spouse? If your spouse chose Ashley Madison over working on the marriage…enough said.
What else is there to explore here?
Oh yes, the $379,000 reward Ashley Madison is offering for information about the hackers. I can see their anger. I can also see karma being a female dog. The best thing to see is the smile that presents itself between my nose and my chin. Did I mention that this company started a business for the pure purpose of making money off of the negative energy of others?
Noel Biderman has made millions of dollars off the heartache of others, yet, they only offer a $379,000 reward for information about the people who exposed their clients. He is placing a low value on the millions who have been damaged by the hack.
Lastly, there is a class-action lawsuit in the hundreds of millions of dollars against Ashley Madison now. On one hand, damn right. On the other, while I absolutely do not support what they did, I will find it completely dissatisfying if those who filed the lawsuit win one red cent.
Yes, there was a data breach. There have been a few of those going around, just ask Target, the IRS, OPM and Sony. But if we let people sue companies for not having enough security to protect their information, we will find ourselves suing every company on dogs green earth in the not too distant future.
Of course, my real anger would stem from the motivation for the lawsuit which, by the way, has absolutely nothing to do with personal information getting out there. It has everything to do with being caught with your hand in the cookie jar ala Josh Duggar every day of the week and twice on Sunday.
So, let’s start our engines, sit back and enjoy the ride. For Ashley Madison will be writing checks, testifying about cheating cowards and likely getting Alien-probed by every government Agency that had an executive caught with their pants down. Where’s a good Bill Clinton joke when you need one?
As for any of you dear readers that know someone or were a someone whose significant other had an account on Ashley Madison, please reread numbers 1 and 2 above. And for good measure, let me give a big F U to those who will chide me as another trooper of the morality police.
I’m not here to preach morality, I am here to write an article about something I hold near and dear to my heart. Some people write or talk about weight loss and the right foods, others about Planned Parenthood and I about the head and the heart.
When you think with your head (yes, that one down there) at the expense of your significant others heart, you are embarrassing and discarding them. In this, I have it in the right head (mind) to tell you to pound sand. And if you happen to be one of the enablers of this, I will tell you to pound sand. Just don’t do it at that beach house you had to sell in order to pay for the lawyers defending your ‘right’ to wreck other people’s marriages.
Good night and bad luck to you AM!
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