Is Divorce Contagious?
I feel as it is or just no one wants to be around me. Maybe I stink? I have been known to go one too many days without a shower. Shush, don’t tell anyone though.
Perfect opportunity for a little Ryan!!
To say I have been in a mood would be an understatement. Since April 2012 my world has been turned upside down. One day I am optimistic on another day I feel like the world is ending. Maybe my roller coaster of emotions is keeping people away.
Or they think divorce is contagious and staying away until it is all said and done. Or they chose the other side. I am not the one who cheated and lied; yet I still suffer the fallout.
I don’t know, but at times it feels pretty lonely. I can’t blame them; I am not exactly a ball of happiness. The manic side of a person going through a divorce is not for everyone.
Plus, I have a kid now. It is not like I had a period of time since being pregnant that I was not in th midst of a divorce. I went from pregnant to kiddo is here, to marriage issues, to husband having an affair, finally to we are getting a divorce. Really did not have a period of happy family time.
Many of his co-workers I suspect choose his side and they are keeping their distance from me. Which I get, they were his friends first. I was just the wife that joined in on the happy hours and the company functions.
There is one particular couple that the friendship will never be the same. They have stated they are neutral. But there really is no neutral ground. The husband of this couple works with Pap and had to see the affair going on at work. (How could you watch it and not say anything – at least to him if not me?) The husband and I met before I met my husband and before he met his wife. Of course as we each got married, our friendship was not as close.
This one hurts the most of all the possible lost friendships. We knew each other “when”. When I was his “wing man”. When I was still getting over my previous relationship. When I finally got over my previous relationship. But I do not think this particular “when,” the when of divorce, we will make it through. That makes me really sad.
Now, this is not a total pity party. I do have certain friends that have truly been there for me, even when I do not feel like being much of a friend.
These are the friends that call/text again and again although I ignore their previous calls/texts. These are the friends that bug me till I have to agree to leave the house.
These are the friends that allow me to bitch and moan about the state of my life.
These are the friends that know I can get through this even when I see no light at the end of the tunnel.
These are the friends that even through text messages can literally make me laugh out loud, in class. Who would have thought laughing would be so hard?
So maybe I am avoided like the Black Plague at the moment. In the big scheme of things, I truly understand. Especially for the married couples that were our friends, I can understand keeping their distance. Divorce is scary and terrible and maybe not something they want in their life. I got the divorce cooties at the moment and some couples are keeping their distance just in case divorce is really contagious.